Anxiety

# 1970

Posted: 13/05/2013 13:21

Kay and all my friends on the site, sorry for not been in touch. I am keeping reasonably well as I hope you all are.

Kay that is very unfortunate that you are currently not in a good place, at least you know the reasons. Apply all the very effective techniques that you have learned and shared with us over the years. Hopefully things will get better for you over a period of time.

All the best to everyone. Kind regards Tom  

# 1969

Posted: 11/05/2013 20:19

Where are miss determined, buzz and Tom? We had a good support group going 

here pretty continuously for a while. I miss that so much. I'm not in a great place right now. But I know the reasons. Kay. 

# 1968

Posted: 03/05/2013 12:07

Hi Kay,

thanks for taking the time to respond to my message.  I suppose anxiety of all kinds is common and it helps to know that there is help out there.

# 1967

Posted: 02/05/2013 19:21

Hi Arora. I think we all have 

OCD tendencies. I know I do particularly when I am feeling 

anxious. It can escalate at certain times. 

# 1966

Posted: 01/05/2013 18:59

hi i think im suffering from pure o OCD, the type without noticable compulsions. please help! your advice would be greatly appreciated!!

# 1965

Posted: 23/04/2013 19:02

Hey Creature,  sorry I am only getting back to your post now.  for some reason my hotmail did not show any new activity on this forum.  

I hope you are feeling somewhat better than when you wrote your last post.  I have no experience with the meds you are on.   No-one should feel isolated and especially when far away from home.  I presume you got medically checked out for the blackouts...and that there is no other physical reason for them.  

Anxiety is a merciless force,  she raises her ugly head and throws everything in our lives into chaos.  I dont think I will ever be totally free of it no matter how much work I do on it.  Because it was instilled in me at such a young age, its is hard to diminish it completely. I suppose how we deal with it is the important thing.  Finding out what works for us as individuals.  There is not a one all cure, and sometimes it takes a mix of lots of different things to work in combating anxiety.  Meds can be of a huge help at least temporarily to get us to a place where we can feel stronger.  I have been on different meds over the years and where one type might suit me during a particular occasion, that same drug might not have any effect on me if I had to take it again some years later.  I never got that and why would it work once but not again.  I do belive however that anxiety can be controlled and that it can be managable as long as we know how to work with it.  

Hope you are doing ok.

# 1964

Posted: 09/03/2013 11:11

Hi all. I have very recently been put on molipaxin. For anxienty induced black-outs. It wasn't the route I wanted, but the job I have, the fairly extreme condtitions in which I live, and without a support system of family or friends in the same country, helped me decide that it was best. I have also been told if i'm still blacking out after 2 months, I will need to see a Neurologist, as it may be a type of Epilepsy.

I feel that writing about it, will help.

To start, my doctor said i should take 150mg a day. So i started, 150mg per day after breakfast. I was a slow moving, glassy-eyed zombie for a week. I sought a second opinion. My family pharmacist, took one look at me and said "what are you on?" I told her th story. She was shocked that I wsan't instructed to build up to a dose of 150. Also saying, that it's better taken at night as it improves your REM sleep. I have reduced to 100mg now and take it at the same time every eve. All opinions that i got, said it was the correct medication, just the dosing and taking it in the mornings, was wrong.

After leaving my home country after a month of sick leave, having to go back to work in Botswana, my sleep has not improved. I am having terryfying nightmares, lucid dreams and sometimes whilst half awake, hallucinations. I hear people calling me, entering my room and many other bizarre, sometimes beautiful, horrible visions and dreams. I didn't have these when I was at home. All started happening once I came back to work.

I am a creative and from a very young age have been able to manifest worlds where i could play "alone" and safe from the mostly chaotic and violent world, the real one, in which I lived. However, even at 31,  with such a stong imagination still. I have never experienced such halucinations, visions and auditory-halucinations.

Just yesterday, I left my office for my room around 11am. I was only going to collect something and come right back. Entering my room, feeling dizzy, I turned on the fan to cool down, sat on the edge of my bed. Next thing I was out. I had a blackout and then struggled with my mind to get up, but was spinning and hearing things and halucinating. I think I passed out again, not sure. What I thought had been an hour, turned out to be 4hours. I pulled myself together, and came back to my office. I was useless to work, all foggy. So I just packed up my stuff and went home before dark. Had another bad night last night.

I thought this drug was meant to improve your sleep.???? Perhaps i shouldn't be on it??? But that was the first blackout / pass out I have had for a while, so perhaps it is doing something?????? Confused.......

Does anyone know:

1. Can extreme heat (32-45 degrees) affect the medication?

2. Have any advice on perhaps lowering my dose to 50g a night.? (i'm scared to just take myself off it)

I think perhaps I just needed to get it out. Work collegues, aren't very sympathetic, as we all live under huge stress here. They don't understand about the halucinations. I guess it comes off a bit crazy to some who may not understand it??? So, I am even more isolated here than before I left for sick leave. With my family, friends and fiancee so far away. I've turned to this forum.

# 1963

Posted: 02/03/2013 23:55

Hi all and especially Kay, thank you for both your postings particularly your 1st where you opened up to share your pain and reason for same and your journey to recovery.  What a brave lady you are, so happy for you and where you are at now and may you go from strength to strength.  Because I went to the edge and clawed my way back myself (plus some medication) I feel my recovery will never be complete.  I came up with my own coping techniques and survival plan and over a 15 year period I went from being an almost housebound struggling individual to a person who learned to drive, got work for 2 hours, went to classes, some concerts and got a responsible job which I hold for 10 years now. Tho I had  7/8 sessions with Rape Criisis Councillor and had Hypnosis 4/5 times, both felt that I seemed ok with my past trauma OR had same embedded so deeply that it was blocked away.  I agree that everybody should see a therapist in their lifetime, it is good for the individual and those close to them. It's like a Spring cleaning of your brain!

So much support and openess now for those struggling with any condition versus 1980's....... Thank God.

# 1962

Posted: 01/03/2013 21:41

Hi Everybody,

Regarding -Recovery Meetings- they have been around for a longtime and I personally would recommend their techneique.  If I remember correctly, itwas invented by Abraham A. Lowe, an American I believe. 

His basic idea is, not to use words that would describe your feelings or experiences in an exagerated way thereby causing anxiety.  It is worth attending.  They hold Group meetings and are very friendly, everybody attending even the organiser has been helped by the method.

I wish you the very best of luck

# 1961

Posted: 01/03/2013 09:36

Hello, has anyone tried to help their Anxiety by using a so-called Recovery technique?

I read about it on the following web site http://www.recovery-inc-ireland.ie/

The appear to have weekly meetings in Dublin.

I never heard of it before, so would like a reccomendation or any info / experience of it.

Thanks

# 1960

Posted: 27/02/2013 23:23

Supawoman, I just read my last post and it looks like I am being patronising. That's not my intention. I am passionate about certain issues and I am passionate about helping people that's why I am gone back to education to train and be able to help people like me and you. I know there are different ways for each person to deal with trauma so please excuse me for trying to put my opinions upon you. My intentions were good only. Kay. 

# 1959

Posted: 26/02/2013 23:07

Hi supawoman, I hear what you are saying.  There is a huge difference in making the connection in you head though and making a connection with the emotions you felt then as a child while being abused.  In therapy I had to remember the details of the horrific things that were done (flashbacks) to me by three men over a ten year period.  while I was remembering them and in between each therapy session I would barely be able to do daily things like work mind my babies etc.  Some weeks would disappear in crying, some would be gone in just a state of me feeling disconnected from those around me, I for the first time felt the pure fear, anguish, desolation, saddness, anger and disappointment that I was not allowed to feel as a child.  This is the really important part of healing.  You have to go back to those times with a trusted friend or a qualified therapist to release those feelings. Its not easy to do and we all have to have great courage when we face our demons but please trust  me when you do, the result will be a freer, less stressful, more knowledgable, stronger and less anxious person. While going back and feeling and remembering all the crap that happened is hard and not quick, its truely worth while.  I look on it as a journey just for me.  I have gone from being a stay at home mom who lived a very small safe life to a woman who goes to college, studying now for over three years, I also got a part time job and done lots of different things which I would never have had the courage to do with out therapy.  I was like you too, I took meds lots of them and therapy didnt even enter my mind until one day I was in our local shop coming out when a woman I hardly know asked my how I was....I burst out crying in her face and told her i was having panic attacks no meds were working and i thought i was going mad.  she gave me the number of a therapist her daughter had seen previously and said please ring her she will help you.  she told me I was not in that state for no reason.  she was right.  

The pain and hurt and shame and fear we felt as children was not able to be expressed then as children.  so we carried it all our lives until one day it raises its ugly head as anxiety, panic or depression.  Then there it is, this big ugly thing taking over our lives and we dont know how it got there. Through my bloody brilliant therapist( i had to say that), I know that feelings we do not express adequately about the wrongs that were done to us will stay in our bodies and eat us from the inside out.  

So while I am ranting and raving here with good intention only though, I hope it helps you.  Have you ever had the counselling or therapy?  I think every person in Ireland (in an ideal world), should have counselling at some stage in their lives.  Irish people as a rule have really bad time talking about our feelings and worries.  we can talk about "nothing" at length but ask us to talk about feelings and everyone goes running.   

# 1958

Posted: 25/02/2013 21:52

Kay, you refer to trauma playing a part in the onset of panic/anxiety.   I was abused as a child but making the connection does not help with where I am at now.

# 1957

Posted: 24/02/2013 18:05

Hi all, I have posted here many many times in the last few years. Anyone who knows me on this forum knows my history to some degree. I agree that there are different ways to help anxiety and panic, there is not one fix for all. So while some chose medications or therapy others could go the holistic approach. All are helpful to whomever the individual is.  But the one thing I do think is true is this...we are not born with anxiety or panic. The only two fears we are born with as babies are the fear of falling and loud noises. Although I believe our personalities and the way we are raised go some way towards our personality makeup, I believe panic and anxiety stem from a trauma or hard time during our early years. I know mine certainly is! I believe through my own journey that what happens us in our childhood affects the way we turn out as adults. I thought my childhood was normal but I know now this is completely the opposite. It's funny what we accept from our parents and those around us growing up, we believe what we see us the same in every child's life but that's very far from the truth. Finding out what causes panic and anxiety goes a long long way to helping live with the symptoms instead of thinking that we are mad or loosing our minds to know why we are feeling that way is really helpful. It doesn't stop all the panic completely but does truly help it move along allowing us to live the way we are supposed to live. Sorry for the rant but its something I am so passionate about . Kay x. 

# 1956

Posted: 23/02/2013 21:41

I work in a Doctors Surgery and I try and keep Posters and information leaflets on Depression and Anxiety & Panic Attacks available at all times because when I was at my wits end with these conditions in the early 80's there was nobody I could turn to except my GP for medication. Tried this, tried that, until eventually we got a grip on it. Thanks to Gerry Ryan on 2FM for keeping me sane, he frequently discussed these conditions on his programme. Micksor, I do believe there is still a stigma involved. One of the Doctors I work with suffers from Depression, he choose to tell me but I am too proud to tell him that I have been to hell and back for the last 30 years with Agrophobia, Clostraphobia, Chronic Anxiety, Panic Attacks and then Depression. There were no Support Groups etc and one had to go to Dublin to see a Therapist....how could I do this when I was afraid to go outside the door? Thankfully there is help at every corner now.

# 1955

Posted: 22/02/2013 14:44

Hi everyone , may i add to this Discussion , Over many years Anxiety & Panic Attacks lead to deep depression , ( as i was to find out ) my first visit to the Doctor i was prescribed Anti Depressants witch i took for two months , that brand did not do me any good , On the second visit to my Doctor, the Madication was changed & he referred me to a Terapist , A lady came to my home once a week for 12 Months , I found the lady very helpful i could see things more clearly , Sadly my Anxiery returned , This time i started to read about the problem , witch i found eased my mind , I changed my Doctor who in the long run found the Anti Depressant that suited me , The Medication has made my life livable again . Don't be like me who thought Anxiety & Depression was a Taboo subject it is an Illness that can be brought under control.

Time Will Tell

# 1954

Posted: 22/02/2013 07:31

There are a number of ways to reduce anxiety, but it’s important to get a doctor’s help if anxiety is constant or appears to be diminishing quality of life. The major prescription medications that reduce anxiety include some of the best-known antidepressants. It isn’t always necessary to turn to medications to reduce anxiety. Many people find that work with a therapist helps and others are helped with a number of self-coping methods. A good way of assessing anxiety may have medical cause is to see a doctor and work with a therapist.

Health Ireland

# 1953

Posted: 04/02/2013 21:09

Hi crisi. I do exactly what you do when I have anxiety. My therapist taught me to do it. I write down all the stuff in my head and the anxiety always subsides. I've tryed to get others to do this too, but unfortunately a lot of people think its just a waste of time. I've been doing it for six yrs now and it never ceases to amaze me how anxiety lessens substantially when I do. Sometimes if I'm being stubborn or even lazy and I don't write during anxious times then it gets worse until I do. Call it a valve or whatever but it does work. Kay. 

# 1952

Posted: 03/02/2013 18:07

I am diagnosed with bipolar disorder (type 1).

Anxiety can really get the best of me , I can feel like I'm paralyzed. 

I will try to walk or do something I enjoy like my photography, sometimes anxiety turns into a panic attack. This can make it hard for me to even think clearly.

My mom had me try something, I honestly thought it wouldn't work. She had me write down with pen and paper what was bothering me.

I did it and it was a good list of things, now when I get that paralyzed feeling , I write down whats on my mind.

I still can't do anything about it or change it immediatley. It really makes me feel better, then I can go walk or take photos. My mind is cleared ,I've also noticed the attacks don't come as often or as close together.

I hope this can work for all of you.

Crisi

Crisi

# 1951

Posted: 02/02/2013 21:37

I have just discovered this discussions section.  I have chronic Anxiety since being a young adult. it's been a rough road from time to time. I wish there was a magical solution. It has made me compassionate and understanding but this is cold comfort on a bad day. Hope to chat with you all from time to time.

# 1950

Posted: 04/01/2013 00:43

Sometimes if you are really looking for a reason for anxiety that has no rational thinking for it - see if there is an irrational thought behind it. Einstein made a great statement when he said, " I never made a new discovery through the process of rational thinking." What a statement! 

I believe in all that is seen and unseen.

# 1949

Posted: 03/01/2013 10:01

Lenasor I know what you mean, I often experience anxiety after the fact. Sometimes I have a panic attack a few days after a stressful event which doesnt seem to make much sense! I think its the nature of anxiety that its not always (I hesitate) "justified" (but by that I mean to an outsider there seems to be no discernable cause)

Have you support?

# 1948

Posted: 02/01/2013 19:58

Hi all

Anxiety is something I'm finding very difficult to deal with. So many things are triggering it at the moment but I can find any logical explanation for it. It must be some undealt fears kept in the back of the mind which are coming out now.

# 1947

Posted: 10/11/2012 02:20

Do you know what works for me sometimes about anxiety everyone? When I have that feeling sometimes I ask Who is sad or scared or whatever? Instead of the usual, I am sad or scared or whatever. I find my mind starts searching then and listening to maybe the news or my kids problems or the neighbours and you begin to forget about yourself. Some of these thoughts and feelings might not be yours at all and you could be picking up others. When that happens and I think this way I say to myself "Well, if someone is scared about something, maybe my body is strong enough to feel this fear for them and I can absorb it for them." This is really powerful and I hope you all try it out.

I believe in all that is seen and unseen.

# 1946

Posted: 09/11/2012 17:58

hi Tom, good to hear from you and that you are doing well. I am ok too for the most part. A few demons to battle still but getting there. keep in touch.

# 1945

Posted: 08/11/2012 16:33

Good to hear from you Kay, I hope all my other friends on this forum are keeping well. For me doing ok at the moment. Kind regards Tom

# 1944

Posted: 07/11/2012 20:46

Thought we were goin to keep this forum going. Where is everybody?

# 1943

Posted: 27/09/2012 20:42

Hi Tom and miss determined, so good to hear from you both.  I thought this forum was gone.  I totally agree coming to the winter months and christmas that we should all keep lines of communication open.  

Miss Determined, your posts always resonate with me.  I have found keeping anxiety a secret multiplies it ten times over.  Breaking the silence and telling even just one person "you know what?  Today I dont feel too great" is the best thing for decreasing anxious feelings.  It works so well and its so simple to do once you have a person you can share it with.  Thats why this forum is important for people who might not have someone in person to tell.  We can just log on and put it out there, but gettting a response is very important.  So I think we should make a pact to check emails daily if possible and when someone needs to be heard then we hear and we say "I hear you".  

talk soon x

# 1942

Posted: 25/09/2012 23:27

Hi to everyone who regularly contributes to this forum.

Miss Determined's most recent message, jolted me in to thinking that from my point of view, it is most important to keep this forum alive. I hope that I am not alone in this viewpoint.

As the Winter months approach, I think it is most important that we  renew and keep in contact with each other.

Best wishes to all

Tom

# 1941

Posted: 25/09/2012 10:00

A big hello to all of you on this site, I miss not hearing from you all. I really hope everyone is doing well .wonder if your all ok . You guys are the only people that I consider sharing deep down how I feel so thats says how special you all are and I wish you the very best.  

As for me , I spent the Summer , one day at a time and not allowing all our stresses at home to get the better of me. I realise that if I dont take it easy on myself and stop worrying about finances ect I wont be much good to my family .

It doesnt help when you are falling into debt ect with this 'ole recession but it is so important I find joy in my day so at last I am gentle on me and rather than worry about all my problems I am now findning joy in the positives in my life such as my healthy children,friends, walking my dogs  ect . I still have times when I cant cope and feel numb or sad but it usually lasts for few hours and not days. My children make me want to get up and move as I dont want them to  remember me as 'always taking to the bed ' (an ole saying).

I have been out of work with anxiety and recognise how unfocused and jittery I am at times , this really has got me down at times cause I want to get better

Over the years I have always tried to mask my anxiety and succeeded to the point that I appeared to be a very confident person in  peoples eyes .I refuse to pretend anymore amd hope to reduce my anxiety by just being me Heres to the next week , with hope !

# 1940

Posted: 15/06/2012 20:11

thanks miss determined,  your post made me cry but in a good way.  I regularly write to my inner child, daily right now because I know she is so afraid, confused and let down.  You are right, every child should be allowed feel safe.  I will make it because I want my children to have the life and security I didnt have.  As I write this post my parents are here in my living room.  I am holding it together.  Part of me wants to ban them from my house and never see them again.  But I dont know if that is the answer.  I am in therapy and my therapist told me if I needed to reach out to her then I could any time. this is a crap journey.  I get exhausted by trauma and emotions.  Then I pick myself up and get on with it.  I do have a fabulous husband and a couple of really great friends who are also there for me, not to mention this forum.  I have a realtively secure financial life.  We dont have the money for luxuries anymore but we are lucky enough to have no major loans.  I think because right now in my life at this time things are very good for me and this helps me deal with my childhood.  I am extremely grateful for all the good in my life now, without it I think I would find this more of a struggle. thanks again for your post, it means so much to me knowing you are there for me too.  kay x

# 1939

Posted: 13/06/2012 20:11

Hi Kay, I really feel for you , it must be worrying  trying to work out what actually happened then and how it made you feel. It may not be the right time for your sub concious to remember everything but for whatever reason you did not feel safe and secure at the time. Hopefully with therapy the feelings you are having ,although very painful,  will help you to heal a bit more as an adult . At times like this you could write to your inner child at the age it happened and invite her to write back.In your letter  provide her with the reassurance that the adult you is present and will love and support her. I know how feelings of insecurity and lack of a safe envirioment can present as anxiety and almost paralyse you whilst bringing deep sadness.I wish I could say something to you that would be of help but it is such a lonely and hard journey , I am hoping you are still attending therapy and you will ring if it all gets too painful as I know from experience it could get intense.All I can say is that every child deserves to feel safe and I am so sorry that you did not. I understand when you say your so fed up as it is such a long recovery , so much damage can be done, my own recovery is so slow and I get so angry with how limited I am as a human being as I am still so fearful of life . I know the therapy is so painful but I always find that after an anxiety spell you do learn to love and empower yourself a little more .Keep holding on Kay as you are going to be a survivor of this, you deserve to  security and happiness in your life and I wish it in an abundance for you, X

# 1938

Posted: 13/06/2012 17:34

Thanks Tom, I suppose I am so afraid that maybe this memory or flashback is the first of many.  Its so horrible.  I am so fed up with the whole thing.  I am trying to focus on my own advice and stay connected with now, take deep breaths and see this through.  Also reminding myself as you have done and I have done many's a time on this forum, that this feeling I have will change.  Nothing stays the same, and as bad as I feel right now, this will pass too.  Thanks for your reply.  it means a lot.  kay.

# 1937

Posted: 13/06/2012 10:43

Kay,

Try to clear the confusion in your head, you have learned  and shared various techniques with us about this in the past. When you are thinking more clearly, then decide if this was a once off, with an explanation that he could have thought it was your mother. If this is the case then it is not child abuse, albeit it is a very very unpleasant unpleasant experience for you. It will take time for you to remember further and to arrive at your conclusion(s).

Meanwhile as we have spoken about before, control the monster within, this will not destroy you unlesss you let it. Everything keeps changing, nothing remains the same. You will get though this and you will be ok.

Best of luck in the days ahead

Kind regards Tom  

# 1936

Posted: 12/06/2012 14:48

I remembered something........my father used to drink a lot when me and my sister were little.  He was quiet and unassuming when he had no drink taken.  I remembered when I was 5 or 6 years old, he had to sleep in the same bed as me because my sister was sick and she slept in the same bed as my mother.  He was drunk, his eyes were closed, he was mumbling and incoherent, he reached over to me and put his hand somewhere that sent me into a complete panic.  I pushed his hand away and he turned over and slept. I was at this stage being abused by my mothers step father for two years at this point.  My father doing this to me, left me feeling worthless, consumed with fear and seeing him in a different light.  I dont know if he thought it was mam next to him in the bed or even if he would remember this but I am reeling from it.  I know people do things that are out of character when drunk, this is my consulation.  I feel anxious right now, very very sad and let down.  help guys.........so confused.

# 1935

Posted: 01/06/2012 22:38

Hi Reecka,

My advice is to be very careful as regards the wine, it could easily lead to another problem. As regards your job, it is very easy to feel Zero and indeed well below it if somebody starts hammering  you about performance etc.

However the fact that you continuously turned into work, you should view as a huge plus factor given all that is going on in your life at the moment. So be very proud of yourself for doing this.

Recruitment business is like the tide, when the economy is going well lots of recruiters are required. When the tide is out, ie the economy is struggling less personnel are required. Try to take the personal out of this for your own sanity in the days/ weeks ahead.

You have as you say lots of experience in recruiting so you will get another job in due course, it may well be parttime or freelance to start with, but that can and will develop. Try in the days ahead to get a positive and glowing reference for all your hard work to date from your current employers.

Hope the above helps in some small way

Kind regards Tom

# 1934

Posted: 01/06/2012 10:26

Hi Miss Determined

I hear ya,  my partner got me a book recently "Quiet the mind" its really good.  I hope you feel better soon. 

For me,  I have been told I am being managed out of my role of a Recruitment Consultant, 10 years services, after making 100's k for the company and because I was underpreforming fees wise, I can walk or go through management performance, without even statutory redundancy because they say its not that situation or walk, I have no other job to go to and will not be able to get one, furthermore, I would not be able to go into sales again the way I feel for at least 12 months.  

I just hope to god I will laugh at this in 10 years, 40 years of age, job opportunity of a life time in Australia gone becuase of ex partner legal intervention not to allow me to remove my son from the country, medical issues that have just come to light, a job I am being managed out of without any dignity whatsoever,  and Anxiety that I cant control.  Maybe I am just here in body I dont even think I could possibly be here in my head (just as well), thank god for wine! 

This too is my therapy too, of course there is no money to pay to speak to someone professional, so I am sorry for throwing all out there, but you know yourself how it is.  

Lets try to enjoy the weekend and the good weather we are promised, there is always a silver lining! 

# 1933

Posted: 31/05/2012 18:30

Hi Everyone  , just saying a quick hello, I had a week of anxiety episodes and this is  my therapy,writing to you all. I have been doing my mindfullness exercises and Im aware what is going on underneath , so thats a bonus. Im trying not to hide away so today i decided to cook some nice food to have for the next few days and that takes my mind off the stressors .

Lately my anxiety prevents me from doing certain work and Ive been a bit hard on myself, telling myself I need more courage ,''pull myself together'' sort of talk but  I think its made my anxiety worse !  Im going to be  kinder to myself this week  and not push myself too hard. I find it difficult when the anxiety returns as I realise I still have not resolved some inner thinking  I had when I was a young girl. Anyone else get that frustration ?

Anyway I just wanted to say you are all in my thoughts ,its a rocky road for everyone at min whether in full health or not and I hope you all have some support out there.

Im especially thinking of you Reecka since reading your message ,i could feel your exhaustion , hopefully when you find things that help your anxiety your partner will start learning to be supportive when you can tell him what to do for you.. Remember you are the most important person right now , you must come first , take care ,x

# 1932

Posted: 15/05/2012 14:52

hi Reecka, I spelt your name wrong on the last post, I apologise.  Anxiety can make you absolutely exhauseted.  Your mind is exhauseted running around and your body is being held in a constant tense state so its only natural you would feel this tired.  Be kind  to yourself, try to sit in the garden or just do nothing.  Although I know I have a tendancy to keep busy when anxiety comes knocking on my door, its not always easy to sit still.  

I am sorry that your husband is not being as supportive as he should.  Its very difficult to deal with an indifferent spouse when you are dealing with your own crisis too.  The only thing I can say for the moment is, do not listen to any negativity from anyone, incl spouse, dont be around people who make you feel worse and dont come down on yourself for feeling bad right now.  Its not your fault.  What you are going through is not weakness, imagination, fake or unreal.  Anxiety is a very real emotion.  it has to be dealt with accordingly.  When people have a physical illness everybody is supportive but when you cannt actually see the illness, such as anxiety, then people assume, wrongly, that its all in your head.  Anxiety is merely an emotional reaction to something that has happened to you in the past or is happening right now.  Its not made up, its not fictional, its very very real. But above all, it is totally treatable and manageable.  You are doing well for the moment talking to us here on the forum.  keep it up and know we will help you in any way we can.  Oh,  and by the way, THIS will pass.  Every emotion passes.  No person feels the same way all the time, so when you feel your anxiety is peaking and you cannt take any more, know that It will definately pass, sit with it, know you will be ok, and please remember you will feel better soon. 

kay.

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Posted: 11/05/2012 18:02

Hi Guys

I cant tell you how good it is to hear back from people, you are all so positive, and I know you have been through this hell.  I hope one day I might be as strong again.  I have taken note of all the advice and got myself a book on IBS during the week, which is very infromative and helpful so far.  my partner has been very annoyed with me this week, its making me very anxious.  He does not recognise my pain, but has all the time for friends and other family sickness and difficulties,  he says he has enough of my issues, and I just feel like an open target now, its the worse place for someone with anxiety to be.  

On the upside work has been great this week, I have had just one of those weeks that it all came together, thankfully, and most importantly the kids are great too.  If the IBS would just stop the pain now, I would get a little holiday from it all.

At the minute, I just want to stay in my living room and not move for the evening, just because I feel exhausted from the anxiety.  Do you feel like that sometimes?