Bisexual husband?

# 8

Posted: 19/06/2001 17:34

please any more comments on this subject?

# 7

Posted: 12/06/2001 20:51

I'm a married bisexual male. I love my wife and I would like to say we are happilly married but the one downside of our relationship is the sexual aspect. I'm very attracted to her and when we make love its great, but the imbalance arises because I have a highsex drive and she has a particularly low one. Through frustration I decided last year to have an affair. Rather than getting involved with a woman and risking the complications of either of us falling in love, I decided to meet with a male. We became friends and met 4 times over a period for sex. What I'm trying to get across is that maybe some men are more simplistic creatures. I had a need and employed an ancient custom to fulfil it, God knows the Greeks were doing it centuries ago. I know I may be shot down for this opinion. I have problems with it - guilt, self doubt, I often consider getting out of the relationship and meeting a woman with a similar sex drive but believe it or not I DO love my wife and I'd hate to loose her.

# 6

Posted: 07/06/2001 17:46

A friend of mine married 8yrs ago in order to conform. Initially they had problems in the sexual relations area which they eventually overcame. The marriage was not consumated for seven months. They now have two boys and seem happy. His wife asked me if he was Gay to which I replied no. Was I right? In his own words sex is only performed as a duty and only if demanded.

He has had a few casual affairs during this time. He would not be able to 'Cope' with 'Coming Out' and comes across as being homophobic to strangers.

Loyal Pal

# 5

Posted: 06/06/2001 19:02

would any man in the bisexual frame like to comment on this as i would like to hear from their perspective

# 4

Posted: 06/06/2001 10:02

I was in a relationship with a man who said that he was bisexual. Unfortunately this was at the stage where he was coming to terms with his gay side and this proved to be the stronger side. I tried to be supportive and understanding but it all blew up in the end as he had started another relationship (with a man)- without having the guts to finish with me. Thankfully a friend told me of the situation. Looking back I realise that I wouldn't have been so understanding if he had been interested in other women. It might be worth talking to someone on the Gay Switchboard -number in the telephone directory. I wouldn't however assume that nothing has happened with other men.

# 3

Posted: 06/06/2001 09:13

I have been in two relationships where my partners have been unfaithful to me with men. They both ultimately come out to me as being gay.
I don't think that there is such thing as a bisexual husband.
What he is is a closet case gay man who is trying to conform to a heterosexual societies expectations of him, by being in a relationship with a woman.
I have no doubt that they do love their female partners, however i believe their sexual tendencies are primarily towards men.

# 2

Posted: 05/06/2001 17:07

I have also found myself in this position after finding pictures of naked men hidden in the back of the wardrobe.
I am pretty sure that he has never taken this any further, but wonder whether to mention it or let sleeping dogs lie.
Everything else appears normal.
Would be interested to know how others have handled this.

# 1

Posted: 02/06/2001 21:32

Has anyone else found themselves married for a long time only to discover that their husband has definite leanings towards other men, though they may not have actually had a relationship with another man, but are still attracted to them? He was understandably shocked when I found out(computer glitch)but I'm sure not as shocked as I was!