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Anon.  ·  30 Jun 2008
Hello Kieran,

just to be sure, are you suggesting hypnosis with analysis, there is nothing new with that only thing is, I wouldn't
allow myself be analysed by a non medical person, anybody can
analyse but it all depends on how one interprets the information and in turn deals with the patient that takes a qualified Doctor no less.

I would never dream of going to visit a hypnotist for a medical matter. As you know you can learn hypnotism in a very short time as the site you recommend explains. Sorry Kieran I will be staying with my Doctor if and when I need advice.

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  30 Jun 2008
Hi Libby and follow Blushers,

If you have to try hypnosis please take my advice and only go through your G.P. I have just retired to Ireland after 40+ years in medicine and during those years I have had many patients who should not have had hypnosis of any type meaning there is a new name/word added to hypnosis every year Pure etc. In my opinion, there is no room for hypnosis in the field of medicine. you will never find a site advertising one type of medicine over the next whereas you go on site and check how you can take a course on line with easy payment facilities etc. the course will cost 1500 euros, and they tell you that you will retrieve that money with your first two/three clients. if you are taken in, your first visit will be E120 approx. and each visit thereafter will cost E80-95 by the time you have finished with Hypnoanalysis. the course includes how to get your new clients i.e. come on to a site such as this one and offer advice while letting the reader know you have a practice etc., you are impressed and he/she has a client.

As a retired medical professional I abhor this type of touting for business.

In conclusion, friends check carefully before you undertake any treatment and may I suggest, that you check it with your Doctor first, the mind is a precious thing and I suggest that you keep control of it!

If I have offended anybody please excuse an old fool! who cares.
 

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CJ  ·  29 Jun 2008
Hi everyone,
I'm 20 and have been suffering from really bad underarm sweating for about 7 years now. I can't talk to anyone about it, and I get so down about it as it controls my whole life. I told my mum about it when I was about 14 and she said it was probably hormones and I'd "grow out of it"...well, I definitely haven't grown out of it! I would love to be able to wear whatever I want, instead I stick to the same dark stringtops. If someone hugs me when they are wearing a sleeveless top it's a nightmare because I know that my sweaty armpits are rubbing against them. I've become an expert at disguising it, as I'm sure most sufferers have. I have managed to hide it from pretty much everyone, even my boyfriend of 2 years doesn't know. Any time he notices me sweating I just sort of laugh it off and say I'm too hot. I've tried Driclor, it worked for about a week and I can honestly say that it was the happiest week of my life. Sad, I know. However, it became unbearably irritable and stopped working as well so I gave up. After reading the comments on this site I think I'll try PerspireX and see how it goes. If that doesn't work does anyone know who to contact about botox?
I have only just found this site and I am so happy as I really had no idea so many people were suffering with sweating or blushing. Not happy that we all have a problem but happy I'm not alone!
Anyone who is suffering from very bad underarm sweating and wants to chat, I'd love to talk to you. I didn't know there were others like me!!! Please get in touch and for once we can be ourselves chatting to eachother. I've set up an email just for this, it's stringtopsonly@hotmail.com (very fitting) so please please email me! Also to all the blushers out there, I don't have that problem but I know how it feels to have something control your life, so good luck in the future!
 

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Kieran Fitzpatrick  ·  26 Jun 2008
Hi Libby,

I am a Hypnotherapist in Dublin who treats blushing very successfully. But, I am concerned when I hear that someone has been disappointed with Hypnotherapy. Usually this has been what we call "suggestion therapy" aimed at the symptom, in this case the blushing and sweating.

I would only recommend Analytical Hypnotherapy or Hypno-Analysis for Blushing, aimed at removing the root cause of the problem which is some bottled up thought or feeling.

There is a lot of information about this on www.hypnoanalysis.com which you can look up. Also, a good Analytical Hypnotherapist should be willing to meet you for a free initial consultation where you can ask questions, meet them and find out about the therapy.

Neither of these options costs a penny and whereas no therapy suits absolutely everyone, this gives a person a chance of looking into a very scientifically sound and effective therapy that might be the key to their own problem.

- Kieran.
 

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Anon.  ·  26 Jun 2008
Hello Anonymous,

I too have been for cbt and hypnosis I wish I could say they
helped me because I paid a lot of money for sessions and my
family paid most of it for me, I owe them a lot of money.

I went learn meditation and used the internet to learn more
about meditation and relaxation, this works for me after years
of suffering. If you are living in Dublin there is a meditation
centre and it is free of charge and no obligations whatsoever
I wish you all the best of luck.

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  25 Jun 2008
hi brad and libby.
i'm not sure if you read my posting on the site a few weeks ago. i went for cbt - cognitive behaviour therapy, for about 10months. it has been wonderful. i feel so much more in control of my blushing. it can still happen, but not frequently, and when it happens i have to work it out, and think about what was going on for me. cbt was so life changing for me.
 

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Anonymous  ·  24 Jun 2008
Hi Brad, I so know where you're coming from. Just know that u r not the only person out there like this. Sometimes I think its alot worse for guys cuz at least sometimes i can cover myself in makeup and hide my blushing a small bit. It doesnt work totally though. I too have thought about the ETS surgery. I've been suffering from this since i was 15, thats nine years ago! It has stopped me from doing so much things in my life. People that dont suffer from it dont realise how serious it is to us. People tell me not too worry about it and it will stop but trust me its not as easy as it looks. Did you ever think of getting hypnotherapy? Its something im considering. I saw an ad in a local paper that the hypnotherapist treats phobic blushing. Not sure if its a waste of money though.
 

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brad  ·  24 Jun 2008
I have the same blushing problem. I remember vivdly the second it started in the 4th grade. I didn't know i was blushing, but everyone was laughing saying his face is red. From the on it gradually got more frequent. No im 26 years old and this is crippling my life, takin me out of any and all social encounters. Maybe im gonna get the ets surguy=ry. It' my last try. Cuz if it don't work then I don't wanna live anymore. This is just to pain full, and no body gets it
 

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Collette  ·  21 Jun 2008
Hi Libby,

Is it any help to know that it does get better, I am older now and I have learned to relax i.e. not get so worked up about things and certainly talking to people about it helps especially face to face. Think about it for a second, the first time you discuss your blushing with somebody you are going to blush, of course you are, because it is how your body reacts to your fear of blushing. You talk to that person again a day or week later your fear will be less because you have experienced the worst that can happen i.e. friend listens, gives you feed- back, you listen. You will eventually realise that you have forgotten about Blushing, What were we talking about! It won't be overnight but it will get less important to you and in turn it won't happen That is how it was with me.
By the way Libby, how do you know your friends noticed your
blushing, you never explained? Good Luck Libby.

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  20 Jun 2008
Hi Collette, thanks for ur advice. I've been dealing with this for years but never spoke or told anyone (although all my friends and family def noticed!) I spoke to my boyfriend this week too and he's so supportivetelling me not to worry and all this, but I hate it! I just need some sort of solution. Does talking about it help at all???
 

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Anonymous  ·  19 Jun 2008
Libby,

first of all and most important I can see by your letter that you are working yourself up into a complete frenzy and you will notice your thought process is causing your bodies reactions, think about it. If you let your thoughts rule your body you will blush! Your fear of blushing causes you to blush, so, calm down calm, ask yourself why you are afraid to blush, do you know it is one of the nicest attributes you can have. Blushing proves that you are a sensitive and caring person and my boy friend said that was one of the things that attracted him to me, so, most of what I say is coming from experience and how our relationship has gone. We are together a long time. Sometimes men can be intimidated by women and when they meet somebody who is caring (blushing) it restores their faith in womankind.
 

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Anonymous  ·  18 Jun 2008
Hi Everyone, I really really need some help with this whole blushing problem. I feel its taking over my life and not letting me live my life the best I can. I constantly think about my problem, even if im shopping in town I hope and pray i wont see anyone i know who myt stop and talk cuz i know for some reason il turn so red. Im not even embarrassed but for some reason I blush. But then when i realise I blush i get embarrassed - its a vicious cycle and its getting me down. All day at work i have the same problem - i dont know what to do :(
 

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Bubbles  ·  12 Jun 2008
Gemma,

There was a discussion about this on 2fm (Gerry Ryan) there were a couple of people on there that had operations for sweating which were a complete success., Give 2fm a shout and they'll be able to give you the relevant information.
 

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Anonymous  ·  05 Jun 2008
hi. i have suffered from blushing for years, especially in work,or if i met someone from work unexpectedly in a shop etc.
finally i went to my gp who prescribed me propanalol. its a beta blocker, which slows down adrenaline release and really controls blushing. however its a short term solution, as i found it good, but found i was relying on it more and more. my gp also referred me for cognitive behavioual therapy(cbt). this was excellent. i have just finished a 10month course of same. i still need to work hard sometimes, but my blushing control has definately improved and i no longer feel the need to take take propanalol.
i would definately recommend cbt for anyone.
 

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Anonymous  ·  19 May 2008
Hey I get this very embarrassing red patchy rash across my neck when embarrassed, stressed or if in stressful situation. i can handle fine but i get it none the less!!! is there any way to avoid it??
 

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Gemma (VWA71409)  ·  18 May 2008
Im 24 and have had excessive sweating since im about 14/15. it really gets me down and often i feel suicidal. i sweat under the arm, feet and hands. the hands are the major problem for me. its so embarrassing in interviews, or in bars/clubs, if you have to shake someones hand, let alone having to feel the sweat on your hands all the time yourself.

i have andhydrol and driclor. i used both, but just gave up using them, because i felt they were having no effect, i suppose i didnt really give them a chance as i was looking for a "miracle cure" to work straight away. i went to my doctor about this and was referred to a hospital to see a specialist, but when i was told the side effects of the operation, i.e. sweating on the back and chest, i was very disheartened, the specialist said that for some people the side effects can seem worse than the original problem.

anyway, i am going to give the driclor another go tonight and continue using it every night to see if it has any positive effect.
is there anyone else out there that is suffering with this...especially of the hands?
 

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joe  ·  17 May 2008
I have to agree with Colette here. You will always get the idiots who take the mick. I tried hypnosis which, after many sessions, did nothing and i felt worse, as if that was the last resort and that failed! So, thinking nothing would work, I just got into my head that I dont give a damn if I blush and get all sweaty. I DO care, but if you just keep thinking "so what", and more importantly have an inward smile on your face, it really does help. In the few weeks I've adopted this approach, I can honestly say I get beamers less and dont have sweat pouring from my head. Im not into spiritual stuff, but a positive thought will always win. Honest!
 

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Colette   ·  16 May 2008
Carmen, there is always someone out there to peddle their wares. So keep your money in your pocket and trust in yourself and guess what if you don't care it will show in your face and you will soon discover everybody is too wrapped up in their selves to even notice if you dropped dead in front of them I GUARANTEE IT! Practice, practice, and you will build up your confidence and then
let me know how its going. You will love the feeling of accomplishment!

Colette.

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  16 May 2008
The root cause of blushing can be uprooted. You hear all this bullsh** that "oh you have to go through years and years of therapy" blah blah blah. Its GARBAGE. Like any phobia its learned neurologically. Do research on NLP. Neuro Linguistic Programming.
 

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colette   ·  09 May 2008
Hi Carmen, There will always be something out there to jeer you about something, can I suggest, it is not the jeering it is how youreact to it. So what's wrong with our face blushing, it tells me that like me you are a sensitive person and, in turn sensitive means you are a kind and caring person. You will always find nasty people out there who are nasty and lack the goodness you have. I am a woman in my fifties but I wasn't always in my fifties and I always blushed. Rethink the situation, is blushing all that bad, relax you seem to be a person who people would like to have as a good friend, not enough of us out there.

Relax and let people get to know you for what you are, A BEAUTIFUL PERSON!

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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carmen  ·  09 May 2008
i have suffered with this horrible problem since high school and my earliest memory was when a particular teacher used to comment on it all the time eg. you will be a blushing bride, i bet the boys like it when you go red like that etc it was horrible. Now it happens maily at work and i think about it pretty much all day every day, i have such a fear of someone coming up to me as i know i will turn bright red and people will comment. I hate it!
I have tried hypnotherapy and it hasn't worked, and am considering botox injections. I have thought about ETS but had too many side effects for my liking. The worst is if i run into someone at the shops unexpenctantly i can't stop my face turning red, if i planned on meeting them i would probably be fine! I love being in dark rooms, and then i am not shy at all. It really makes me appear antisocial, although i would love to talk to everyone, i try to avoid situations that i know will make me blush. Feel free to email me anyone to talk about this horrible problem! I'm from Australia carmenzxc@hotmail.com
 

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carmen  ·  09 May 2008
anyone tried botox for blushing? I am seriously considering it now as blushing has seriously affected my life. I have tried hypnotherapy and it didn't help at all. I'm from Australia as well
 

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Anonymous  ·  02 May 2008
hi i have read it maybe worth taking aspirin to help with blushing it is suppose to thin the blood so maybe worth a try !!!!
 

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Anonymous  ·  01 May 2008
I am so happy to have found all you people out there going through the same. I swear I really did think I was the only one.. Can't wait to get the kids to bed tonight so I can catch up with all my new friends on this forum.
 

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Anon.  ·  25 Apr 2008
I have tried everything and I have found that affirmation and relaxation techniques do help. These problems are brought on by our thought process and reactions and it can be dealt with by our thought process. I am sick and tired of so called specialists saying I can feel your "suffering", " I feel so sorry for you,'' these sentences adds ammunition to the "FIRE" the psychological fire., Some of these "specialists" take courses advertised on the internet, they study at home and at the end of the course they are told how to attract business by targeting their market (on a site such as this) offer help, always mention how they can help because they are a trained ----- they are also advised to include their contact details now and then, profit profit profit!

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  24 Apr 2008
Ive suffered from blushing for as long as I can remember. It only happens indoors when its bright, and only happens with certain people at certain times ( family, friends, strangers ) which makes me believe even more, that its phychological! And because of this all confidence detiorated. I have tried everything I can think of. I had 10 sessions of hypnotherapy which did not work. I have bought all sorts of c.ds and self help books. I have used special creams. I went to my G.P who told me I would grow out of it,(I am now 28) that nobody notices it, even though I have had people commenting on it before.
Lately it has improved a lot, even though it still happens occasionly, this is because my confidence has increased. I discovered an american site called "poweraffirmations.com".You can buy downloads from this site then put them on to a cd and listen to them daily, when I bought them 3months ago they were on a special offer and I only paid bout 8 so they are not expensive. As anyone who suffers from blushing knows, you will try anyting to get it to stop!. Anyway I want to let other suffers know about this site as it might help them as it has helped me. Good luck x
 

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Anonymous  ·  23 Apr 2008
Hi Kieran, and No Sweat I came across this site a month or
so ago and I kept reading the letters but none of them made
any sense to me until I read your letters and they really spoke to me. My parents had me going to doctors and psychologists since I was fourteen (I have depression also). I have had tablets ,herbal medicines even, hypnotherapy analysis. My parents spent a fortune on taking me to these people 6 sessions 10 sessions and another one 12 sessions roughly 80 to 120 euros a session I could qualify as a therapist spending that type of money and what really annoys me is I can't pay it back.
After four years break from study I am now back but as mentioned at the beginning I have a part time job, not to be dependant on parents 100%. I like your ideas because they don't give me the idea of hopelessness, fear, dependance on
others. I use the gym and it really helps but its good to hear somebody else say it, and funny Kieran 19/4/08 it was another person that told me I was blushing, when I was around eleven.
I was bullied about it, you could have been writing about me
it really helped. Thanks guys I'll keep watching. P. p.s. I have to give back the lap top now and Kieran she didn't charge me !
 

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No Sweat  ·  21 Apr 2008
Hi LJ,
Glad my post struck a chord with you. I'm doing well at the moment these days thanks. This cool fresh weather is great for me...helps reduce my compensatory sweating. CBT...Cognitive Behaviour Therapy....in others words changing your thought processes....is huge in dealing with everything from blushing to depression. Essentially what Kieran says in his post dated 19/4/08 is CBT....I would advise people to read it closely....its a good post.

In regard to depression I have tried a range of medications none of which I found any benefit whatsoever. The best cure for my depression has been regular physical exercise. ...basically getting to the gym 3 or 4 times a week. Its a great release for stress, will make your heart more efficient which gives you more energy and stamina and most importantly releases natural endorphins which give you a natural lift.

Don't know if you've tried EFT....Emotional Freedom Technique....basically again another form of CBT...by repeating a self acceptance phrase/maxim over and over. Self acceptance is the key. It should be taught in school!!

All the best,
D.
 

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Anonymous  ·  21 Apr 2008
Does anyone have a temporary quick fix for hand sweating? I have an event to go to with my husband's work---I am expected to be there and meeting alot of people (ug!). I will be shaking hands alot. I normally run my hands under really cold water for a little to help with sweating, but it only lasts for so long. (I'd rather have cold hands than sweaty, hot ones). I am going to try dermablend for the blushing.....I can't drink as I normally would to take the edge off because I am pregnant. I am agonizing over this. I tried some lotion anti-perspirant that didn't work at all. Maybe rubbing alcohol? What are your tricks?
 

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Anonymous  ·  19 Apr 2008
Hi Everybody, I was asked once "why was I blushing" until then I didn't even know I was blushing, I was aware that each time I entered a room with lots of people I felt hot or, if a girl I fancied spoke to me I felt hot but I never saw it as a problem that is until somebody put a name on it, I hope you are following my train of thought. I knew I was shy but I didn't see that as a problem actually a girl that I was mad about told me that she liked me BECAUSE I was shy, not everybody likes pushy guys she said. Beware of people who tell you they can help, IT whatever IT may be is only a problem if YOU let them make it a problem. Language (words) if used incorrectly can be damaging and most of us do not realise this, for instance if I said to you " Man that's some spot you've got there" would you believe me, of course you would, that would be your immediate reaction. At that moment you become vulnerable and open you might let yourself become obsessed with IT whatever IT means to you and then, you are hooked, you are then vulnerable, you will take any bodies advice. I did, I took everybody's advice, I went to every type of professional you can name over a 10 year period believe me it cost me a fortune each practitioner said they could cure me and it would take anything from 3 to +++ visits, none of them worked. I personally found deep relaxation and eventually meditation worked for me plus realising eventually that it is emotionally based, when I knew I was about to enter a situation where I would normally blush I recognised it for what it was and relaxed my mind, I am not saying that it will happen overnight you have to train ones self but believe me it works, save your money and when you discover that you already have the answer yourself remember be your own person don't be opening your wallet to every person who says THEY CAN HELP AND CURE YOU, do you really need an expensive 10 session cure, Think about it. If this makes any difference to your way of thinking NON CHARGE, " Because you're worth it"
 

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Kieran Fitzpatrick  ·  17 Apr 2008
Hi,

regarding Hypnosis and it's use in getting to the root cause of any problem (and many are related like blushing, sweating and even alcohol dependency, (or it's use as an escape). People from a similar or the same background will obviously be more likely to have had similar past experiences and so often many of the same symptoms.

The reason some "Hypnotists" do not succeed in reaching it is because some practice what is known as "suggestion therapy", used to deal with symptoms. Some others dilute the hypno-analysis with assorted other "techniques". This means they are often trying to treat the symptoms and find the cause at the same time, which confuses the mind, in simple terms.

Google "hypnoanalysis", look out for "Pure Hypnoanalysis" and there you will find information on this therapy and also direction to qualified practitioners in this form of hypnotherapy.

I am seeing a lot of needless suffering here and I know that this works.

I hope that this helps.

Regards,

- Kieran.
 

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lj (CSX70541)  ·  17 Apr 2008
hi no sweat...
wow thank you for your post i compltely agree with you.. it really does make sense and have read about self-acceptance before, just find it very difficult to apply it to myself.. just reading back on your posts, and am really sorry your surgery went so bad. your definately right in warning people about it and hopefully they will decide against it(thanks to you) i was prescribed an anti depressant a few years ago think it was seroxat (dont quote me)and found them no help, infact it made me worse and some weeks after i came off it, it was taken off the shelf as people were having suicidal thoughts while taking it. i don't want to put anyone off either and have heard ant-depressants combined with cbt works great, just not for me. how are you these days ?

Kieran- thaks for your comments and yes dealing with the route of the problem is the right way to go. The past 2 hyonotists i have seen obviously never got to there with me. so i think ill take your advice and give NLP a miss and try and find a good hypnotist. (any recommendations would be appreciated) I just want to also thank you for taking time out to give yur advice, :-)
 

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Anonymous  ·  17 Apr 2008
Paxil helped me tremendously but I am thinking it was more of a placebo effect. I had to go off of it when I got pregnant b/c of risk to baby. The anxiety came back immediately. It was very difficult to go off only 20mg. Withdrawl is likened to heroin. Also side effect is no sex drive, which was fine with me, but could be embarrassing / debilitating to men. Trying meditation now to help with situations. Learning to breathe from the diaphragm instead of in the chest, which is equated with hyperventilating.
Am looking forward to conquering this because I am otherwise a people-person, have lots of friends, big family, have lots I'd like to do. I'm not shy at all. Just crippled by this, when I open my mouth to talk, I turn red!
Oh, I have sweaty hands and feet too. (bad) Think this is all hyper-hydrosis, but not willing to go through the risk of surgery.
I think my brother suffers too but we're too embarrassed to discuss it. Probably hereditary---could explain why alcoholism is rampant in the family? Perhaps a coping mechanism? Sad :(
 

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Anonymous  ·  17 Apr 2008
I am trying cognitive therapy by myself with a book because I have been to 3 therapists who aren't equipped with this problem to help me. They all suggested drugs and I don't want to go that route. It's not about getting when this first happened and why, I know that and have made amends with it, it's about teaching my once confident brain to be confident again. Mind over matter. I have made a list of 'embarrassing situations and ranked them. I am tackling the 'easy' stuff first (chatting with strangers at the grocery store) and hopefully working up to more difficult things (visiting my old work). There is visualization techniques where you picture yourself in these situations first to help set the tone. When you feel the blush, don't fight it, accept it, repeat a mantra: "People don't care if I am red."
It is helping reduce the severity of the blush already. DO NOT totally avoid situations where you feel uncomfortable. This will only make the other easy stuff worse. "Compensatory blushing" if you will. Like in front of your spouse or parents. Keep living your life. Take baby steps. Confidence breeds success.
I was surprised to see a picture of myself the other day. I was certain I was red all over, but breathing and trying my new techniques while the person took 20 years to snap the shot and everyone was staring at me. I got it back and my face looks uncomfortable, but not red. Perhaps it's not as bad as we think to other people.
 

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No Sweat  ·  16 Apr 2008
Hi LJ
Excellent post from you there and I would totally agree. "A life lived in fear is a life half lived".

Its a pity CBT didn't help for you. It has made me more relaxed in myself. The key is self acceptance....despite any faults or failings you may have, unconditional acceptance of yourself is paramount. If you need the acceptance of others before you can accept yourself, then you will forever lead a life of anxiety because yuo can never guarantee to be accepted by others. Self acceptance will make any form of rejection so much easier to take....its like an extra skin.

Also you have to seperate the event from the self. If you performed well or badly in a particular situation it doesn't make your self worth any greater or lessor.
It was an event in time. You're core self worth is still the same. If you performed well then that is satisfying. if you performed badly then you can hopefully learn from the situation and take steps to perform better the best time.

All the above will lead to greater self esteem and less anxiety in social situations which will lead to less blushing.

Hopefully this will help others out there.
 

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Kieran Fitzpatrick  ·  16 Apr 2008
Hi lj,

if you, or anyone is considering hypnosis, I would ask you to check out Pure Hypnoanalysis as some other hypnotherapies and NLP work on managing the problem rather than curing the root cause permanently. I have worked as a therapist in all of these approaches and now specialise in Pure Hypnoanalysis as it is the fastest and most effective treatment.

- Kieran.
 

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lj  ·  15 Apr 2008
hi all, like everyone here I am delighted to find this site, I've never written on a web page before now and at the moment am checking over my shoulder to make sure nobody can see what I'm writing. I've been a blusher since my late teens and have tried cbt and hypnosis over the past 5 years. Both have failed to work and now I just feel the mental torment is too much and it's time I kicked this in the butt. I believe my problem stared when an ex boyf of mine's father done the worst thing ever and publicly humiliated me and pointed at me saying "my god look how red she is". That's my earliest memory of blushing and it's been up and and down since then. None of my family know how much it takes over my life as I rarely blush around them. Like most of the other people here its when I meet people when I'm out in the shops for example or in work at meetings (my biggest fear), even in 1 to 1 conversations. I'd say now at this stage I think about it 75% of the day and even dream about it at night. Nobody has a clue what I'm going through well except you's, and I know that people wouldn't understand. Society should be ashamed not us. I have done so much research these days, I'm thinking bout ets but not sure after reading some posts. Might go tomorrow and get that make up dermablend, might help in the road ahead. Also gonna try hypnosis again and found this centre that combine hynosis with NLP, not sure what it is, think similar to behavioural therapy. But I'd just like to say to everyone this IS the first step for many, for me probably the 4th, so don't give up and thank you for all the advice.
CHINS UP>>> :-)
"a life lived in fear is a life half lived" xx
 

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Anonymous  ·  27 Mar 2008
I am a college student in my early twenties. I have suffered from blushing, social anxiety and also anxiety related sweating under my arms for about ten years. I have been successful in not letting the problem completely take over my life ( I have a few good friends and can function reasonably well) but am tired of this debilitating condition. It makes encounters with girls especially difficult and forming relationships is hard. I find it difficult to be adventurous and make new friends as I live in permanent fear of blushing in front of people, making both them and myself extremely uncomfortable. I find presentations (which we have to do frequently) extremely nerve wracking and suffer blushing and extreme anxiety before and during them. However it is the blushing that causes me most distress as I suspect that the anxiety and sweating stem from fear of blushing. From reading the posts above it seems that there are many others with similar difficulties but most seem at a loss as to what to do or are considering extreme options (surgery) or strategies to mask the blushing (cosmetics), without addressing the root of the problem. There must be an easier and more permanent way to defeat this problem. I was wondering how effective hypnosis is? I have seen people on this forum advocating it. Does anyone know what proportion of people who embark on this sort of therapy successfully banish blushing? What drug treatments are effective and safe? I have recently tried getting more exercise and try to meditate occasionally to help with the anxiety but the blushing is as persistant as ever. I am tired of this problem and really want to step out from under its shadow. If anyone has any advice or suggestions they would be most appreciated
 

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shad (GPA69894)  ·  25 Mar 2008
I considered ETS but after all I've read I believe i'll pass.

too big of a gamble =(
 

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Joe  ·  19 Mar 2008
All of you Facial Blushing (Erythrophobia) sufferers are searching over net for the solution. I tried to find it myself, I have read many articles, forum posts etc, but I haven't found anything that can help us in 5 minutes :lol: , no... I've found many clues that lead to the solution. I know you all have some knowledge on this problem too by now.

I strongly suggest you all to get MSN messenger ( create new account if you want privacy ), and contact me. I will find more people, from all around the world, you will find more of them too once we' get connected. Than we all can discuss this in real time chat, assign task's to each other, encourage, report successes and failures, not over forums which are slow and people don't offer some strategies, they are mostly whining. Only we know how we are feeling inside, no one else, so it is up to us to find the solution! I myself, have some ideas how we could work this out. DON'T BE LAZY, THIS IS A VERY GOOD CHANCE FOR YOU, the worst would be sitting all day with arms crossed doing nothing.

My MSN Adress is: donbrutto@hotmail.com , I hope you will join me, if not, I wish you luck in some other way.
 
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