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J. Sherwin (Prof.)   ·  03 Jul 2008
In reply to your letter to this forum, Young man if you met me
you would remember me.

While I am now in retirement for some years, I have been
asked to give two lectures in Dublin at the end of August beginning of September (dates yet to be decided) I will have
the society send you an invitation, if you wish to attend you
are most welcome.


Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Kieran Fitzpatrick  ·  02 Jul 2008
Dear Prof. Sherwin,

The original Irish Health article about this subject, written by a medical doctor, also referred to Hypnotherapy as often being beneficial to certain sufferers of blushing.

I mentioned "Dr. Jack" purely as an experienced qualified medical reference, with a very different opinion of Hypnosis and its benefits to yours. He may be deceased but his writings are still available, his website is active and his views on the subconscious are very much alive.

Rather than use my association with him to my benefit here, I actually significantly played down my relationship with him during the last two years of his life. (I know people who barely knew the man who now claim to have been "trained" by him! I was not.) I was frankly surprised but proud that we became good friends. He was a very shrewd man and not always a supporter of some of the schools of hypnotherapy or its practitioners. My first meeting with him was like a job interview!

I often received advice from him and he encouraged me greatly to continue my work, as he did several other lay therapists, and he was very interested in their knowledge and training. We even took patient sessions together in his practice occasionally, to which he generously gave me an open invitation.

I too spent many happy hours in his company. Maybe we have met? I was in his home as he was "waked" the night before attending his funeral and at his funeral the next day.

I would be more than happy to correspond with you, if you want to, via my mail address rather than to continue to subject the readers of this forum to our reminiscences and diverging views. So I will say no more. Maybe we can agree to disagree also.

By the way Ann, at lot has changed since you were in your teens. Paul Goldin later retired from stage performance, trained as a Hypnotherapist and until his recent death ran two very successful and busy hypnotherapy practices. Stage Hypnosis, like "magic" is an illusion, for entertainment. In truth, nobody can be put under a "spell" or be under the control of a Hypnotist.

- Kieran.
 

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J. Sherwin (Prof.)   ·  02 Jul 2008
Kieran,

You may wish to bring the deceased into this conversation to use to your benefit, although I cannot for the life of me figure how meeting Mr. Gibson for a short time bears any relevance to your qualifications.
I worked with Jack Gibson as it so happens and we spent many happy hours discussing the pros and cons of the subconscious, we agreed to disagree, but we were friends right to the end.

Mr. Jack Gibson FRCSI was a highly educated person with a lifetime of medical qualifications and experience.

Are you still of the opinion that with respect, a diploma or two entitles a person to take charge of a persons subconscious WHEN THEY ARE AT THEIR MOST VULNERABLE, I do not.

If you are serious about helping people you will continue with your education and if you are lucky enough you will have the fortunate pleasure of sitting with another Jack Gibson and share your experiences together.


Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Kieran Fitzpatrick  ·  01 Jul 2008
Just to address some of the opinions expressed by Prof. Sherwin and "Anon." regarding Hypnotherapy.

Nowadays, many of our member Hypnotherapists are referred clients by their G.P. on a regular basis. Some of our members are employed in association with hospitals in the UK and Northern Ireland.

You are, of course entitled to your opinion Prof. Sherwin, but it is one of many. I had the good fortune and honour of working briefly with Mr. Jack Gibson F.R.C.S.I. during the two years prior to his death. If you are unfamiliar with Mr. Gibson there is a short BMJ biography of him at

http://bmj.bmjjournals.com/cgi/content/full/330/7505/1452/DC1

I can assure you that after 60+ years experience as a surgeon in medicine, he was of a very different opinion to yours. He performed thousands of operations under hypnosis and on retirement from surgery he continued practising Hypnotherapy on psychosomatic and emotional problems.

Hence, I suppose, the old saying "Doctors differ and patients die".

Equally, I could say that I have had many clients over the years who have attended G.P.s who, in my opinion, should never have been allowed practice medicine and who recommended unnecessary surgery and prescribed ineffective drugs for years to desperate people who later arrived on my doorstep. Ever profession is at the mercy of the individuals within it to a degree.

Anyone can learn "Hypnosis" in probably about half an hour, that is true. But Hypnosis is just a tool used to relax the client it is not the therapy.

I trained with the Institute of Clinical Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy here in Ireland. It was an intensive course, mainly in Psychology and Psychoanalysis. There were rigourous examinations to be passed for a Diploma in Hypnotherapy/Psychotherapy and then further courses and classes to be attended, required reading and written exams completed for an Advanced Practical Diploma. They and the IAPH in the UK, of which I am now a member, insist on personal therapy, continuing professional training and professional supervision for all of their therapists, who are bound by a code of ethics.

Regarding Anon.'s comments, Hypnotherapy is not an alternative therapy, it is, or should be, a complimentary therapy. That is, performed in conjunction with conventional medicine in any medical matters. An ethical therapist will never treat an apparent medical condition without ensuring that the client has been fully medically cleared.

It would also seem that you are dismissing the whole world of successful work undertaken by other Pyschotherapists, Psychoanalysts, Psychologists and Counsellors who are also lay therapists, with no medical qualifications. Very few medical doctors are trained in any of the above disciplines, or the clinical use of Hypnosis.

I don't mean to get into a debate here, but I could not let some of the inferences made go unchallenged. I'm not sure what you are bringing to this forum, but my primary aim is not to "tout" business, but to inform the many people suffering here of a modern treatment that I see working successfully every week. Because I too care about people who feel hopeless and fear that their only alternatives, to what is primarily an emotional/feelings problem, are drugs or surgery.

I would support your advice to people to check carefully before undertaking any treatment and those who only feel comfortable, or find success with conventional medicine are of course entitled to their choice.
 

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Anonymous  ·  01 Jul 2008
At last somebody who speaks sense! In this day and age when we are telling our daughters to be careful who they go out with,where they go etc. and, somebody is suggesting that they go to a strangers house/office and let them perform hypnosis on them.
When I was in my teens Hypnosis was carried out by performers on stage for the enjoyment of the audience and still is I believe. I remember going to see Paul Golden r.i.p. he was a great show man.

- Ann
 

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Anonymous  ·  30 Jun 2008
Who ever said to each of you that blushing and sweat marks are
bad, the companies who sell anti-perspirant, deodorants, manufacturers of make up and people who say I can help you, I can heal this terrible problem. YOU don't have a problem.

Just think about it for a minute, pink is a beautiful colour

If you didn't perspire you would die. You drink water ! you
wash with water, it is clear, no colour.!

Why do you bother about a water mark ? ? ?

I hope you understand what I mean, I mean well! P.S. I Blush.
 

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Anon.  ·  30 Jun 2008
Hello Kieran,

just to be sure, are you suggesting hypnosis with analysis, there is nothing new with that only thing is, I wouldn't
allow myself be analysed by a non medical person, anybody can
analyse but it all depends on how one interprets the information and in turn deals with the patient that takes a qualified Doctor no less.

I would never dream of going to visit a hypnotist for a medical matter. As you know you can learn hypnotism in a very short time as the site you recommend explains. Sorry Kieran I will be staying with my Doctor if and when I need advice.

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  30 Jun 2008
Hi Libby and follow Blushers,

If you have to try hypnosis please take my advice and only go through your G.P. I have just retired to Ireland after 40+ years in medicine and during those years I have had many patients who should not have had hypnosis of any type meaning there is a new name/word added to hypnosis every year Pure etc. In my opinion, there is no room for hypnosis in the field of medicine. you will never find a site advertising one type of medicine over the next whereas you go on site and check how you can take a course on line with easy payment facilities etc. the course will cost 1500 euros, and they tell you that you will retrieve that money with your first two/three clients. if you are taken in, your first visit will be E120 approx. and each visit thereafter will cost E80-95 by the time you have finished with Hypnoanalysis. the course includes how to get your new clients i.e. come on to a site such as this one and offer advice while letting the reader know you have a practice etc., you are impressed and he/she has a client.

As a retired medical professional I abhor this type of touting for business.

In conclusion, friends check carefully before you undertake any treatment and may I suggest, that you check it with your Doctor first, the mind is a precious thing and I suggest that you keep control of it!

If I have offended anybody please excuse an old fool! who cares.
 

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CJ  ·  29 Jun 2008
Hi everyone,
I'm 20 and have been suffering from really bad underarm sweating for about 7 years now. I can't talk to anyone about it, and I get so down about it as it controls my whole life. I told my mum about it when I was about 14 and she said it was probably hormones and I'd "grow out of it"...well, I definitely haven't grown out of it! I would love to be able to wear whatever I want, instead I stick to the same dark stringtops. If someone hugs me when they are wearing a sleeveless top it's a nightmare because I know that my sweaty armpits are rubbing against them. I've become an expert at disguising it, as I'm sure most sufferers have. I have managed to hide it from pretty much everyone, even my boyfriend of 2 years doesn't know. Any time he notices me sweating I just sort of laugh it off and say I'm too hot. I've tried Driclor, it worked for about a week and I can honestly say that it was the happiest week of my life. Sad, I know. However, it became unbearably irritable and stopped working as well so I gave up. After reading the comments on this site I think I'll try PerspireX and see how it goes. If that doesn't work does anyone know who to contact about botox?
I have only just found this site and I am so happy as I really had no idea so many people were suffering with sweating or blushing. Not happy that we all have a problem but happy I'm not alone!
Anyone who is suffering from very bad underarm sweating and wants to chat, I'd love to talk to you. I didn't know there were others like me!!! Please get in touch and for once we can be ourselves chatting to eachother. I've set up an email just for this, it's stringtopsonly@hotmail.com (very fitting) so please please email me! Also to all the blushers out there, I don't have that problem but I know how it feels to have something control your life, so good luck in the future!
 

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Kieran Fitzpatrick  ·  26 Jun 2008
Hi Libby,

I am a Hypnotherapist in Dublin who treats blushing very successfully. But, I am concerned when I hear that someone has been disappointed with Hypnotherapy. Usually this has been what we call "suggestion therapy" aimed at the symptom, in this case the blushing and sweating.

I would only recommend Analytical Hypnotherapy or Hypno-Analysis for Blushing, aimed at removing the root cause of the problem which is some bottled up thought or feeling.

There is a lot of information about this on www.hypnoanalysis.com which you can look up. Also, a good Analytical Hypnotherapist should be willing to meet you for a free initial consultation where you can ask questions, meet them and find out about the therapy.

Neither of these options costs a penny and whereas no therapy suits absolutely everyone, this gives a person a chance of looking into a very scientifically sound and effective therapy that might be the key to their own problem.

- Kieran.
 

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Anon.  ·  26 Jun 2008
Hello Anonymous,

I too have been for cbt and hypnosis I wish I could say they
helped me because I paid a lot of money for sessions and my
family paid most of it for me, I owe them a lot of money.

I went learn meditation and used the internet to learn more
about meditation and relaxation, this works for me after years
of suffering. If you are living in Dublin there is a meditation
centre and it is free of charge and no obligations whatsoever
I wish you all the best of luck.

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  25 Jun 2008
hi brad and libby.
i'm not sure if you read my posting on the site a few weeks ago. i went for cbt - cognitive behaviour therapy, for about 10months. it has been wonderful. i feel so much more in control of my blushing. it can still happen, but not frequently, and when it happens i have to work it out, and think about what was going on for me. cbt was so life changing for me.
 

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Anonymous  ·  24 Jun 2008
Hi Brad, I so know where you're coming from. Just know that u r not the only person out there like this. Sometimes I think its alot worse for guys cuz at least sometimes i can cover myself in makeup and hide my blushing a small bit. It doesnt work totally though. I too have thought about the ETS surgery. I've been suffering from this since i was 15, thats nine years ago! It has stopped me from doing so much things in my life. People that dont suffer from it dont realise how serious it is to us. People tell me not too worry about it and it will stop but trust me its not as easy as it looks. Did you ever think of getting hypnotherapy? Its something im considering. I saw an ad in a local paper that the hypnotherapist treats phobic blushing. Not sure if its a waste of money though.
 

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brad  ·  24 Jun 2008
I have the same blushing problem. I remember vivdly the second it started in the 4th grade. I didn't know i was blushing, but everyone was laughing saying his face is red. From the on it gradually got more frequent. No im 26 years old and this is crippling my life, takin me out of any and all social encounters. Maybe im gonna get the ets surguy=ry. It' my last try. Cuz if it don't work then I don't wanna live anymore. This is just to pain full, and no body gets it
 

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Collette  ·  21 Jun 2008
Hi Libby,

Is it any help to know that it does get better, I am older now and I have learned to relax i.e. not get so worked up about things and certainly talking to people about it helps especially face to face. Think about it for a second, the first time you discuss your blushing with somebody you are going to blush, of course you are, because it is how your body reacts to your fear of blushing. You talk to that person again a day or week later your fear will be less because you have experienced the worst that can happen i.e. friend listens, gives you feed- back, you listen. You will eventually realise that you have forgotten about Blushing, What were we talking about! It won't be overnight but it will get less important to you and in turn it won't happen That is how it was with me.
By the way Libby, how do you know your friends noticed your
blushing, you never explained? Good Luck Libby.

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  20 Jun 2008
Hi Collette, thanks for ur advice. I've been dealing with this for years but never spoke or told anyone (although all my friends and family def noticed!) I spoke to my boyfriend this week too and he's so supportivetelling me not to worry and all this, but I hate it! I just need some sort of solution. Does talking about it help at all???
 

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Anonymous  ·  19 Jun 2008
Libby,

first of all and most important I can see by your letter that you are working yourself up into a complete frenzy and you will notice your thought process is causing your bodies reactions, think about it. If you let your thoughts rule your body you will blush! Your fear of blushing causes you to blush, so, calm down calm, ask yourself why you are afraid to blush, do you know it is one of the nicest attributes you can have. Blushing proves that you are a sensitive and caring person and my boy friend said that was one of the things that attracted him to me, so, most of what I say is coming from experience and how our relationship has gone. We are together a long time. Sometimes men can be intimidated by women and when they meet somebody who is caring (blushing) it restores their faith in womankind.
 

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Anonymous  ·  18 Jun 2008
Hi Everyone, I really really need some help with this whole blushing problem. I feel its taking over my life and not letting me live my life the best I can. I constantly think about my problem, even if im shopping in town I hope and pray i wont see anyone i know who myt stop and talk cuz i know for some reason il turn so red. Im not even embarrassed but for some reason I blush. But then when i realise I blush i get embarrassed - its a vicious cycle and its getting me down. All day at work i have the same problem - i dont know what to do :(
 

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Bubbles  ·  12 Jun 2008
Gemma,

There was a discussion about this on 2fm (Gerry Ryan) there were a couple of people on there that had operations for sweating which were a complete success., Give 2fm a shout and they'll be able to give you the relevant information.
 

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Anonymous  ·  05 Jun 2008
hi. i have suffered from blushing for years, especially in work,or if i met someone from work unexpectedly in a shop etc.
finally i went to my gp who prescribed me propanalol. its a beta blocker, which slows down adrenaline release and really controls blushing. however its a short term solution, as i found it good, but found i was relying on it more and more. my gp also referred me for cognitive behavioual therapy(cbt). this was excellent. i have just finished a 10month course of same. i still need to work hard sometimes, but my blushing control has definately improved and i no longer feel the need to take take propanalol.
i would definately recommend cbt for anyone.
 

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Anonymous  ·  19 May 2008
Hey I get this very embarrassing red patchy rash across my neck when embarrassed, stressed or if in stressful situation. i can handle fine but i get it none the less!!! is there any way to avoid it??
 

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Gemma (VWA71409)  ·  18 May 2008
Im 24 and have had excessive sweating since im about 14/15. it really gets me down and often i feel suicidal. i sweat under the arm, feet and hands. the hands are the major problem for me. its so embarrassing in interviews, or in bars/clubs, if you have to shake someones hand, let alone having to feel the sweat on your hands all the time yourself.

i have andhydrol and driclor. i used both, but just gave up using them, because i felt they were having no effect, i suppose i didnt really give them a chance as i was looking for a "miracle cure" to work straight away. i went to my doctor about this and was referred to a hospital to see a specialist, but when i was told the side effects of the operation, i.e. sweating on the back and chest, i was very disheartened, the specialist said that for some people the side effects can seem worse than the original problem.

anyway, i am going to give the driclor another go tonight and continue using it every night to see if it has any positive effect.
is there anyone else out there that is suffering with this...especially of the hands?
 

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joe  ·  17 May 2008
I have to agree with Colette here. You will always get the idiots who take the mick. I tried hypnosis which, after many sessions, did nothing and i felt worse, as if that was the last resort and that failed! So, thinking nothing would work, I just got into my head that I dont give a damn if I blush and get all sweaty. I DO care, but if you just keep thinking "so what", and more importantly have an inward smile on your face, it really does help. In the few weeks I've adopted this approach, I can honestly say I get beamers less and dont have sweat pouring from my head. Im not into spiritual stuff, but a positive thought will always win. Honest!
 

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Colette   ·  16 May 2008
Carmen, there is always someone out there to peddle their wares. So keep your money in your pocket and trust in yourself and guess what if you don't care it will show in your face and you will soon discover everybody is too wrapped up in their selves to even notice if you dropped dead in front of them I GUARANTEE IT! Practice, practice, and you will build up your confidence and then
let me know how its going. You will love the feeling of accomplishment!

Colette.

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  16 May 2008
The root cause of blushing can be uprooted. You hear all this bullsh** that "oh you have to go through years and years of therapy" blah blah blah. Its GARBAGE. Like any phobia its learned neurologically. Do research on NLP. Neuro Linguistic Programming.
 

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colette   ·  09 May 2008
Hi Carmen, There will always be something out there to jeer you about something, can I suggest, it is not the jeering it is how youreact to it. So what's wrong with our face blushing, it tells me that like me you are a sensitive person and, in turn sensitive means you are a kind and caring person. You will always find nasty people out there who are nasty and lack the goodness you have. I am a woman in my fifties but I wasn't always in my fifties and I always blushed. Rethink the situation, is blushing all that bad, relax you seem to be a person who people would like to have as a good friend, not enough of us out there.

Relax and let people get to know you for what you are, A BEAUTIFUL PERSON!

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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carmen  ·  09 May 2008
i have suffered with this horrible problem since high school and my earliest memory was when a particular teacher used to comment on it all the time eg. you will be a blushing bride, i bet the boys like it when you go red like that etc it was horrible. Now it happens maily at work and i think about it pretty much all day every day, i have such a fear of someone coming up to me as i know i will turn bright red and people will comment. I hate it!
I have tried hypnotherapy and it hasn't worked, and am considering botox injections. I have thought about ETS but had too many side effects for my liking. The worst is if i run into someone at the shops unexpenctantly i can't stop my face turning red, if i planned on meeting them i would probably be fine! I love being in dark rooms, and then i am not shy at all. It really makes me appear antisocial, although i would love to talk to everyone, i try to avoid situations that i know will make me blush. Feel free to email me anyone to talk about this horrible problem! I'm from Australia carmenzxc@hotmail.com
 

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carmen  ·  09 May 2008
anyone tried botox for blushing? I am seriously considering it now as blushing has seriously affected my life. I have tried hypnotherapy and it didn't help at all. I'm from Australia as well
 

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Anonymous  ·  02 May 2008
hi i have read it maybe worth taking aspirin to help with blushing it is suppose to thin the blood so maybe worth a try !!!!
 

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Anonymous  ·  01 May 2008
I am so happy to have found all you people out there going through the same. I swear I really did think I was the only one.. Can't wait to get the kids to bed tonight so I can catch up with all my new friends on this forum.
 

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Anon.  ·  25 Apr 2008
I have tried everything and I have found that affirmation and relaxation techniques do help. These problems are brought on by our thought process and reactions and it can be dealt with by our thought process. I am sick and tired of so called specialists saying I can feel your "suffering", " I feel so sorry for you,'' these sentences adds ammunition to the "FIRE" the psychological fire., Some of these "specialists" take courses advertised on the internet, they study at home and at the end of the course they are told how to attract business by targeting their market (on a site such as this) offer help, always mention how they can help because they are a trained ----- they are also advised to include their contact details now and then, profit profit profit!

Tizzy by name and nature

 

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Anonymous  ·  24 Apr 2008
Ive suffered from blushing for as long as I can remember. It only happens indoors when its bright, and only happens with certain people at certain times ( family, friends, strangers ) which makes me believe even more, that its phychological! And because of this all confidence detiorated. I have tried everything I can think of. I had 10 sessions of hypnotherapy which did not work. I have bought all sorts of c.ds and self help books. I have used special creams. I went to my G.P who told me I would grow out of it,(I am now 28) that nobody notices it, even though I have had people commenting on it before.
Lately it has improved a lot, even though it still happens occasionly, this is because my confidence has increased. I discovered an american site called "poweraffirmations.com".You can buy downloads from this site then put them on to a cd and listen to them daily, when I bought them 3months ago they were on a special offer and I only paid bout 8 so they are not expensive. As anyone who suffers from blushing knows, you will try anyting to get it to stop!. Anyway I want to let other suffers know about this site as it might help them as it has helped me. Good luck x
 

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Anonymous  ·  23 Apr 2008
Hi Kieran, and No Sweat I came across this site a month or
so ago and I kept reading the letters but none of them made
any sense to me until I read your letters and they really spoke to me. My parents had me going to doctors and psychologists since I was fourteen (I have depression also). I have had tablets ,herbal medicines even, hypnotherapy analysis. My parents spent a fortune on taking me to these people 6 sessions 10 sessions and another one 12 sessions roughly 80 to 120 euros a session I could qualify as a therapist spending that type of money and what really annoys me is I can't pay it back.
After four years break from study I am now back but as mentioned at the beginning I have a part time job, not to be dependant on parents 100%. I like your ideas because they don't give me the idea of hopelessness, fear, dependance on
others. I use the gym and it really helps but its good to hear somebody else say it, and funny Kieran 19/4/08 it was another person that told me I was blushing, when I was around eleven.
I was bullied about it, you could have been writing about me
it really helped. Thanks guys I'll keep watching. P. p.s. I have to give back the lap top now and Kieran she didn't charge me !
 

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No Sweat  ·  21 Apr 2008
Hi LJ,
Glad my post struck a chord with you. I'm doing well at the moment these days thanks. This cool fresh weather is great for me...helps reduce my compensatory sweating. CBT...Cognitive Behaviour Therapy....in others words changing your thought processes....is huge in dealing with everything from blushing to depression. Essentially what Kieran says in his post dated 19/4/08 is CBT....I would advise people to read it closely....its a good post.

In regard to depression I have tried a range of medications none of which I found any benefit whatsoever. The best cure for my depression has been regular physical exercise. ...basically getting to the gym 3 or 4 times a week. Its a great release for stress, will make your heart more efficient which gives you more energy and stamina and most importantly releases natural endorphins which give you a natural lift.

Don't know if you've tried EFT....Emotional Freedom Technique....basically again another form of CBT...by repeating a self acceptance phrase/maxim over and over. Self acceptance is the key. It should be taught in school!!

All the best,
D.
 

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Anonymous  ·  21 Apr 2008
Does anyone have a temporary quick fix for hand sweating? I have an event to go to with my husband's work---I am expected to be there and meeting alot of people (ug!). I will be shaking hands alot. I normally run my hands under really cold water for a little to help with sweating, but it only lasts for so long. (I'd rather have cold hands than sweaty, hot ones). I am going to try dermablend for the blushing.....I can't drink as I normally would to take the edge off because I am pregnant. I am agonizing over this. I tried some lotion anti-perspirant that didn't work at all. Maybe rubbing alcohol? What are your tricks?
 

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Anonymous  ·  19 Apr 2008
Hi Everybody, I was asked once "why was I blushing" until then I didn't even know I was blushing, I was aware that each time I entered a room with lots of people I felt hot or, if a girl I fancied spoke to me I felt hot but I never saw it as a problem that is until somebody put a name on it, I hope you are following my train of thought. I knew I was shy but I didn't see that as a problem actually a girl that I was mad about told me that she liked me BECAUSE I was shy, not everybody likes pushy guys she said. Beware of people who tell you they can help, IT whatever IT may be is only a problem if YOU let them make it a problem. Language (words) if used incorrectly can be damaging and most of us do not realise this, for instance if I said to you " Man that's some spot you've got there" would you believe me, of course you would, that would be your immediate reaction. At that moment you become vulnerable and open you might let yourself become obsessed with IT whatever IT means to you and then, you are hooked, you are then vulnerable, you will take any bodies advice. I did, I took everybody's advice, I went to every type of professional you can name over a 10 year period believe me it cost me a fortune each practitioner said they could cure me and it would take anything from 3 to +++ visits, none of them worked. I personally found deep relaxation and eventually meditation worked for me plus realising eventually that it is emotionally based, when I knew I was about to enter a situation where I would normally blush I recognised it for what it was and relaxed my mind, I am not saying that it will happen overnight you have to train ones self but believe me it works, save your money and when you discover that you already have the answer yourself remember be your own person don't be opening your wallet to every person who says THEY CAN HELP AND CURE YOU, do you really need an expensive 10 session cure, Think about it. If this makes any difference to your way of thinking NON CHARGE, " Because you're worth it"
 

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Kieran Fitzpatrick  ·  17 Apr 2008
Hi,

regarding Hypnosis and it's use in getting to the root cause of any problem (and many are related like blushing, sweating and even alcohol dependency, (or it's use as an escape). People from a similar or the same background will obviously be more likely to have had similar past experiences and so often many of the same symptoms.

The reason some "Hypnotists" do not succeed in reaching it is because some practice what is known as "suggestion therapy", used to deal with symptoms. Some others dilute the hypno-analysis with assorted other "techniques". This means they are often trying to treat the symptoms and find the cause at the same time, which confuses the mind, in simple terms.

Google "hypnoanalysis", look out for "Pure Hypnoanalysis" and there you will find information on this therapy and also direction to qualified practitioners in this form of hypnotherapy.

I am seeing a lot of needless suffering here and I know that this works.

I hope that this helps.

Regards,

- Kieran.
 

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lj (CSX70541)  ·  17 Apr 2008
hi no sweat...
wow thank you for your post i compltely agree with you.. it really does make sense and have read about self-acceptance before, just find it very difficult to apply it to myself.. just reading back on your posts, and am really sorry your surgery went so bad. your definately right in warning people about it and hopefully they will decide against it(thanks to you) i was prescribed an anti depressant a few years ago think it was seroxat (dont quote me)and found them no help, infact it made me worse and some weeks after i came off it, it was taken off the shelf as people were having suicidal thoughts while taking it. i don't want to put anyone off either and have heard ant-depressants combined with cbt works great, just not for me. how are you these days ?

Kieran- thaks for your comments and yes dealing with the route of the problem is the right way to go. The past 2 hyonotists i have seen obviously never got to there with me. so i think ill take your advice and give NLP a miss and try and find a good hypnotist. (any recommendations would be appreciated) I just want to also thank you for taking time out to give yur advice, :-)
 

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Anonymous  ·  17 Apr 2008
Paxil helped me tremendously but I am thinking it was more of a placebo effect. I had to go off of it when I got pregnant b/c of risk to baby. The anxiety came back immediately. It was very difficult to go off only 20mg. Withdrawl is likened to heroin. Also side effect is no sex drive, which was fine with me, but could be embarrassing / debilitating to men. Trying meditation now to help with situations. Learning to breathe from the diaphragm instead of in the chest, which is equated with hyperventilating.
Am looking forward to conquering this because I am otherwise a people-person, have lots of friends, big family, have lots I'd like to do. I'm not shy at all. Just crippled by this, when I open my mouth to talk, I turn red!
Oh, I have sweaty hands and feet too. (bad) Think this is all hyper-hydrosis, but not willing to go through the risk of surgery.
I think my brother suffers too but we're too embarrassed to discuss it. Probably hereditary---could explain why alcoholism is rampant in the family? Perhaps a coping mechanism? Sad :(
 

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Anonymous  ·  17 Apr 2008
I am trying cognitive therapy by myself with a book because I have been to 3 therapists who aren't equipped with this problem to help me. They all suggested drugs and I don't want to go that route. It's not about getting when this first happened and why, I know that and have made amends with it, it's about teaching my once confident brain to be confident again. Mind over matter. I have made a list of 'embarrassing situations and ranked them. I am tackling the 'easy' stuff first (chatting with strangers at the grocery store) and hopefully working up to more difficult things (visiting my old work). There is visualization techniques where you picture yourself in these situations first to help set the tone. When you feel the blush, don't fight it, accept it, repeat a mantra: "People don't care if I am red."
It is helping reduce the severity of the blush already. DO NOT totally avoid situations where you feel uncomfortable. This will only make the other easy stuff worse. "Compensatory blushing" if you will. Like in front of your spouse or parents. Keep living your life. Take baby steps. Confidence breeds success.
I was surprised to see a picture of myself the other day. I was certain I was red all over, but breathing and trying my new techniques while the person took 20 years to snap the shot and everyone was staring at me. I got it back and my face looks uncomfortable, but not red. Perhaps it's not as bad as we think to other people.
 
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