Problem blushing and sweating

# 730

Posted: 20/03/2013 23:13

I am a 34 yr old female who has also been tormented with severe facial blushing since I was 19, the more it happened the worse the fear of it got!! Going red is no joke, it's ruined my life and still continues to do so, I'm sick and tired of it. It's made me a angry and moody person. I can't sit with friends or family to chat or eat without going bright red, I even get alcohol inside me to shop sometimes, I don't hold a job for to long as the dreaded blushing takes over once again. I'm fine if its a place with dim lights or my perfect eve with friends would be just candles lit, then I can be myself and sit still and chat, I can't stand bumping into people I know so I avoid the situation. Sometimes I'll phone my mum the whole time I'm shopping so if I see anyone they can't stop and talk to me, I've had some good job offers and had to leave as I can't take it anymore. I must come across as either ignorant or just plain nutty as ill be sat there and then someone will say so what do u think about such and such, I feel the heat rising up my face and my own voice sounds like white noise to me then ill quickly jump up and pretend I need to go to the toilet and say ill be back in a min, I mean who does that when your boss or anyone is asking a simple question, then I dread the next tea break or meeting, I've tried cbt, hypno, anti depressants but nothing works. I would love to just chat to anyone about this who understands the devastation this has on people's lives janinedsouza78@gmail.com 

# 729

Posted: 02/01/2013 20:08

Always had a problem with sweating, mainly underarm. Problem is that I can't use heavy antiperspirants due to my sensitive armpits so I can only use natural deodorants but they don't stop me from sweating, they just covering the sweat smell. I also use Nonchalante underarm pads when I'm working to make sure that sweat doesn't show. I'm considering botox but the idea of injection in my armpits makes me shiver. You just have to learn to leave with excesive sweating, I suppose.

# 728

Posted: 29/05/2012 21:52

Hello,

I'm a 45 yr old male in Dublin.  I started blushing around the age of 10, and it's had a big impact on my life.  My Childhood and early adulthood was hard due to my shyness, lack of self confidence and constant blushing. I'd blush talking to anyone even my parents. Buying stuff from shops used all my confidence.  I'd get teased at school and life was pretty hard. 

I'm writing this because the good news is after a decade or so you learn to live with this.  Once you accept this as part of your make-up, things become easier. Once you see other people blushing you realise, 'Hey, that is not such a big deal'..   I talk in meetings and do presentations in work...  I still blush a lot, especially with hard questions or beiong caught on the hop..   The thing is not to worry about this.  Most people are born with some defect, some far more severe than blushing so personally my advice  please don't worry so much.

Regular exercise (Running) had helped me a lot I feel, as well as personally choosing to partake in group discussions where you feel completly uneasy and wish you were not there.

Regards

# 727

Posted: 22/06/2011 23:09

I am also a fellow blusher. I do agree it is a mental trigger/association. I know what some of my triggers are - speaking in public. Even speaking in from of 3 friends at lunch if they all decide to actually look at me instead of eating their food - I blush ! ANyway it is getting better now, and I'll tell you what is working for me. Toastmasters. Basically practicing speaking/talking in front of people. Just making it more normal and not such a big deal. I dont go to toastmasters to get over nerves of speaking in public - i go to it to get over blushing in public. I cant recommend it enough. You can go to any club as a visitor for a couple of times befure you decide to join or not. normal annual subsciption is approx €100/150. The night is really well run with an agenda set out for each night. Having said that it is also a really relaxed and friendly atmosphere. Most people go there becuase they are a bundle of nerves talking in public - as i said I just go to try to get rid of the blushing - and it definitely helps.

# 726

Posted: 06/01/2011 00:20

replying to fanoftran.

I have had extreme blushing for yrs basically its messed up any thing ive wanted to do with my life, no need for me to go into detail as we all know the devastation it has caused .

On the point you made about sexuality , i am straight and have had many girlfriends and i have noticed a similar thing has happened to me recently also very specific to transexuals. I put this down to the fact that i had been looking at a lot of porn over the past 5 or 6 yrs and stumbled on tranny porn and found myself becoming more and more turned on by it.

Personally i believe that is the reason for my attraction to trannys, its almost like u can brainwash urself . I definitley dont believe its because im gay its purely for a sexual kick and if i havent looked aat any for a while the attraction seems to die down.

Have you had this experience too ?? I would love to hear our thoughts on this because your story sounds very similar to mine and if it is just a case of admiting this and all my blushing problems would be gone then i think i may just make that sacrafice . easier said is right but seems like the lesser of 2 evils.

Write back to me if u read this .

# 725

Posted: 05/10/2010 23:00

I am a 58 year old and have been blushing since I was a child, my mum passed away at that time and I strongly believe the loss of mam had a huge effect on me. I was always a nervous anxious child, I remember been blamed or thought I was for taking a ruler or pencil(maybe I did take it) from another child in high infants I go back a long way.

Some years ago I was working part time in an office and the Boss said to me why do you blush when anyone looks at you  I could have died as you can imagine.

I somethimes listen  to a 'Meditation Tape' and find it relaxes me and when I am relaxed I do not seem to blush near as much. I bought a book some years ago 'In stillness conquer fear'  and the CD by Pauline Mc Kinnon I found it an excellent book and refer back to it regularly. I find relaxed breathing very helpful. Thinking back on my life I do seem to have improved and other times I think have I. There are so many up's and down's in life.

Now and again if I am going into a big crowd and a hot area  I will take half a zanax tab  very effective.  It would be wonderful to meet up with other ladies of my own age group I live in the west of Ireland.

forever young

# 724

Posted: 22/09/2010 22:37

Hi,

I suffer from excessive sweating, expecially the armpits. This is partly due to hyperhidrosis. I am also overcoming Social Anxiety.

For the sweating, I find Hydrosal Gel very effective - not a drop from my armpits now

Also, for Social Anxiety help, check www.socialanxietyinstitute.org

I hope this helps people.

Cheers,

Drier!

# 723

Posted: 03/07/2010 20:18

Hi there all.

I'm a 33 year old man and have had this blushing problem for as long as i can remember. I have seen therapists and hypnotherapists and bought cd's and the whole lot, no joy. I want to carry out some research here. I want to find out about peoples sexuality and see could that play a part in all this. Here's why... I have always been straight, or so i thought. Never had any homosexual thoughts, wishes, never crossed my mind at all. Recently that changed. I don't know how, i never saw it coming, and to be honest im totally depressed and confused right now!!! To mess my head even more, ive found its actually very feminine looking transexuals rather than men that interests me (as my nickname points out quite clearly ;)

Now im not saying everyone else has this exact same issue, but i just wonder if others have explored their sexuality? It seems that i have buried these feelings all my life and not even myself could see them? Has anyone else ever considered their sexuality in this problem of blushing. I know this was a MASSIVE shock for me, but because it happened to me i know its also possible to happen to others.

If this IS in fact the root of the problem for me, then in theory i could solve it straight away by publicly declaring my attraction to transexuals, and therefore having all my secrets out in the open and nothing to blush about. Haha, easier said.

Im aware that some people will find this post quite amusing, in a way I think it is also. But rather than a barrage of witty and useless replies, i would love to hear some honest opinions and any similar stories. P.s. I would love to hear peoples success stories in how they put an end to their blushing. Thanks.

Peace.

# 722

Posted: 11/01/2010 22:31

I'm 30 soon and the blushing is really getting to me, i feel like ending it.

I had the ETS treatment which resulted in heavy sweating on my chest, back and upper legs. It did stop the blushing but the sweating during sex, exercise and hot rooms / trains were hard to handle . let alone the change of cloths and always wearing a vest. This put me into sever depression and 13 months of physcoanalysis. The analysis helped alot and my anxiety levels went from a 10 to 2 and even 0 in all the many embaressing suitations I'm sure ur all aware of.

As my confidence I then decided to have actupunture to ease the sweating. As I could'nt see myself with a life of sweating. And let me explain ... it was heavy sweating. Dripping off my chest. Sopping wet vests underneath.

The actupunture was calming but one the last treatment the needle hit the spot where the nerve was cut during the ETS operationa and the BLUSHING HAS COME BACK with sweating still there but not as much.

My social anxiety has come back. I cant hold conversation. Hot rooms are unbearable. My family think i'm really moody. And basically I dont know what to do.

Sorry if i'm being negative but thats the way it is and I just will everyone peace and calming thoughts as i know what you are going through.

earlier today I went to a surgey to have a consultation about BOTOX. The DR was ver nice and recommended I have ipl laser treatment first as botox can be good but can also freeze come facial muscels with asymmetrical smiles etc. He also said some of his previos patients uses ANTI REDNESS moisturizing cream so i'm gonna try that out too.

For now this is my story and altough I cant see me going on any longer i'm going to try the cream, ilp etc and see how it goes.

Please message me if you have anything else I could possibly do?

33 paddy @ gmail . com

# 721

Posted: 28/10/2009 20:38

@ Hope25 can you send us that link to sportsnut_021@yahoo.com for the audio tape, im willing to try almost anything now..? @ Paleface have u heard much about NLP? would be interested to hear more about it..am also in Dublin..

Cheers guys

# 720

Posted: 27/10/2009 12:52

Hello all

The nickname is wishful thinking!!  I am a fellow "sufferer" who has alas not found any cure for this dreadful affliction.  For me it has become a habit that is impossible to break - I really believe that if I could just break the cycle then I could gradually get better. "Hope25" - you mentioned an audio tape that you could download for €20, please can I have the details of this or if anyone knows any good NLP practioners in Dublin?- have done CBT which is great for keeping positive and helping with moods but I don't find it helpful for curing the blush!

# 719

Posted: 07/09/2009 17:34

hello to all my blushing and sweating friends..thought i was the only person that had this problem till i found this site ...i.v being blushing sence god nose ..i lock meself a way from people cause i was so embarrassed for years ..but i prayed a to god to sort me out and he did ..i lean on him if i feel i.m going to blush or sweat and if i do i.m ok about it...its the of it that brings it on ..get rid of the fear ..face what ever is causeing this complex ..have any of youse prayed for a answer why do i have this bordint ..the creater has made us to be happy in our selves not to be prisoners of our own bodys i'm less scared of it cause of my faith i fear god now not of blushing or sweating ...love to chat about this if anyone is interest in doing my email addes is loinheart74@yahoo .com..

# 718

Posted: 07/09/2009 17:34

hello to all my blushing and sweating friends..thought i was the only person that had this problem tell i found this site ...i.v being blushing sence god nose ..i lock meself a way from people cause i was so in barrest for years ..but i prayed a to god to sort me out and he did ..i lean on him if i feel i.m going to blush or sweat and if i do i.m ok about it...its the of it that brings it on ..get rid of the fear ..face what ever is causeing this complex ..have any of youse prayed for a answer why do i have this bordint ..the creater has made us to be happy in are selfs not to be prisoners of are own bodys i.m less scared of it cause of my fate i fear god now not of blushing or sweating ...love to chat about this if anyone is interest in doing my email addes is loinheart74@yahoo .com..

# 717

Posted: 01/09/2009 19:29

hey guys, for some reason can't enter a website on this page (must be something to do with advertising) but if you just google problem blushing its the first entry... it has really helped me. In my opinion it really all is down to self talk.. it takes serious discipline, but when your willing to go to serious lengths to fix it, this is worth it. If you want to leave me an email address I can send you the link! Hope it helps for ye.

# 716

Posted: 30/08/2009 14:52

Hey

Would like to know more about this self talk solution..Any website recommendations? Im getting tired of the non stop Blushing..

cheers

# 715

Posted: 28/08/2009 22:33

Where can we get this audio tape? Is there a link or a search term?

Thanks,

Sweatser

# 714

Posted: 28/08/2009 09:35

hi there,

I suffer from blushing fairly frequently, I try to not let it affect me but at times it stops me from participating in conversations, talking to new people etc.

Gonna give this self talk thing a go, it sounds good!

great advice guys!:)

# 713

Posted: 24/08/2009 16:22

Hey Paddy,

I used them on and off for a couple of years and the only immediate side effect was a dry mouth! But the dry hands and dry face was brilliant!

I stopped using them because of the long term effects. I now, after a few pints, have to go to the loo and after every couple of pints after that! I sometimes wonder if this down to the tablets or is down to being in my mid-30's??

Anything else you need let me know!

Ian

# 712

Posted: 22/08/2009 19:04

Hi Sweatser,

I bought some oxybutynin tablets over the internet but when i got them i was afraid to use them because of possible side affects. Did you experience any side effects? A response would be greatly apprecited,

ty

paddy

# 711

Posted: 21/08/2009 20:17

Maybe the sweat glands are functioning excessively,and that's why during any stressful events the body responses in a not so normal way. Maybe I think he needs some medical interventions on it.

# 710

Posted: 17/08/2009 21:29

Hope 25 thanks for the post, id like to talk to you more? Ive just taken on a new job in work and am worried about how I will manage with this problem of mine and would like some advice perhaps? thanks :-)

# 709

Posted: 16/08/2009 21:32

Hi Everyone, I have read all your comments for the last couple of years but didn't have the guts to join in, as I had difficulty even saying the word blush without going a luminous shade of red. I have suffered from this for 10 years, it started in school when I would get mocked and laughed at for going red.. I am a friendly, outgoing and sociable person so this debilitating condition was making me get so down that I became depressed and even went on anti-depressants for a couple of years (they kind of worked but I didnt want a crutch for the rest of my life so came off them last yr). I tried everything from psychotherapy, CBT, NLP, hypnotherapy, and EFT... I was seriously considering ETS but deep down I still believe it is a mental problem that should be overcome mentally. I came across a site which some of you may have been onto. I cannot recommend it enough, it has given me so much hope for the future. The general gist of the audio book is that everytime you resist a blush by saying "oh no I'm going so red, everyone thinks I'm a freak, why cant I just be normal", your body panics and goes into fight or flight mode, making the blush intensify, and then you fear it even more the next time and before you know it you have developed a phobia (exactly what happened me). I had learnt in therapy "everything you resist persists" but I didnt apply it to this, but as this guy has ovecome excessive blushing himself and has seen a permanent detachment from fear of blushing I felt it was worth a try. Using a mantra along the lines of 'this will pass, I accept myself, they accept me' every single time a blush comes on you will notice huge improvements. The only thing you are really afraid of is yourself and the torrent of abuse that will follow a blush, I think back on the things I used to say to myself and I honestly wouldnt say them to a dog. Its worth a shot anyway, I'm telling you I feel like a changed person, and I only came across the website last week.. but the penny finally dropped, you only need a change in perspective to overcome the problem. And if you don't find it works he offers a refund of the €20 it costs to download the audio tape (which you get emailed immediately). I hope it helps you x

# 708

Posted: 14/08/2009 19:00

HI Lulu,

Nice to hear your op worked out so good!! I had mine done in 2003 here in Dublin but on one side only,the right side ! I never went back and Im happy enough with the results,only thing is I do get pains from the neck down my right arm on a lot of occassions?did you experience this at all ? as for Cs Its very little only a small patch inder the right breast only when its very hot,  anymore info would be appreciated

# 707

Posted: 14/08/2009 17:18

Hey,

a fellow sweaty bloke here, mid 30's and sick of it! Mine happens mostly when in confined spaces such as restaurants, buses etc.

I use driclor for under the arms and cant complain, but the face is another story. A few years back I used to take "Oxybutin" (sp??) which really controlled the sweating but I was worried about the long term effects as the drugs is meant to stop old people piddling themselves!!

So am back looking for solutions, I cycle alot so the exercise front is covered! I was going to try Hypnotherapy. Has anyone heard good feedback? Can anyone recommend a hypntherapist who works with calming sweating?

And remember to always look at the positives, at least we dont have dry cracking skin!!!

Sweatser!

# 706

Posted: 10/08/2009 13:46

# 705

Posted: 24/07/2009 00:23

No Sweat, I don't really care for your attitude.. I spent 3 years looking into to Doctors, reading all the information  I could get my hands on.. Speaking  to people who had this operation with  Doctor's in Toronto.. I had a very good idea what this operation ETS was all about..

My sweating was so bad, I could not stand one minute more of this horrible problem, I wanted help.. This is what I got.. This operation does work.. Please don't scare people off getting help, just because you are not happy with your operation.. I am sorry for you..But not every ETS is problematic, most of them work, ie. 90%..

# 704

Posted: 21/07/2009 19:30

helpp!!me

# 703

Posted: 20/07/2009 20:18

Malka,

Just because you claim to have had a successful operation doesn't mean you are in the clear just yet. I have seen countless stories on other websites whereby patients have had a delayed reaction a suffered from horrific Compensatory Sweating starting as late as two to three years after the operation.

You are being irresponsible blindly encouraging people to get this operation. The surgeons are NOT presenting prospective patients with full facts......simply because they have something to hide....and they want to drum up as much business as they can.

Let people make an INFORMED choice...at least if it goes terribly wrong for them they only have themselves to blame.

# 702

Posted: 20/07/2009 17:01

I've been to my own GP many times and have had quite a few tests but to no avail. I met with a doctor in Beaumont hospital in January but he told me that I would be grand and not to worry about it. It really annoys me when people adopt that kind of attitude towards this problem. In my experience, most medical professionals deem Blushing and excessive sweating as a minor problem. I'm sheduled to see a consultant in Dublin in the autumn but to be honest i'm not very optimistic.

I'm getting some botox on Friday to try and stop my hands sweating so i'll let you know how that goes! Great to see that I'm not the only one dealing with this, That alone gives me a bit of comfort. I am determined to rid myself of this plague. My email is dmgdonegal@gmail.com if anyone wants to contact me!

# 701

Posted: 18/07/2009 12:35

Sickosweat i know exactly what urgoing trough!Im a 36 yr old male and i seem to blush for the least thing.For many yrs now i have suffered from this condition and it has destroyed my confidence.When i take alcohol im like a different person,i become more outgoing and i can talk to anyone!I know this is isnt the solution.I have tried many anti ds but unfortunatly they did not help.I amtaking lustral 50mg at the moment and they have limited effect!Anyway if you want to chat my email is dodsplace@hotmail.com Take care.

# 700

Posted: 18/07/2009 06:24

Independent studies show that 25% of patients regret having the operation. You are playing Russian roulette by having ETS. I would gladly trade places right now with any blusher on this site.. Quote from Nosweat:

I am sorry you had a bad operation, but I don't believe, I was playing Russian roulette when I had my operation last month, I had very successful results..I suggest that people read up on all the information they can find, get an excellant Doctor with good quallfications who has done many ETS operations, and then go for it..

# 699

Posted: 17/07/2009 14:13

Go to the doctor and get help now. Tell him how it is affecting your life. He can give you medication to stop you getting down about it and it will help you stop thinking and focusing on this. It has helped me. Don't do anything else until you speak to your doc. 

# 698

Posted: 17/07/2009 13:49

Before considering an ETS operation to cure blushing I want to warn you and everyone else out there that ETS can have disastrous effects the main one being a condition called Compensatory Sweating (CS). CS is caused because the ETS operation essentially severs and cuts out the part of the nervous syytem responsible for regulating the body temperature. As a result CS leads is extreme uncontrollable sweating from the chest down triggered by normal room temperature, the most gentle physical exercise and even by drinking a cup of tea! I am speaking from personal experience having had this operation myself 5 years ago and it has ruined my life. I would dearly love to be able to go back to my original blushing state. Be warned there is NO successful reversal operation for this condition despite the claims of some surgeons. Do not be conned either by the claims of some surgeon's that a "clamping method" on the nerves is reversable. You are 100% guaranteed to get CS from this op the only variable is the degree to which you get it. The surgeon you use doesn't make any difference either - it is the procedure of severing vital nerve chains that causes the CS. I would advise anyone considering this op not to do it unless they want to risk ruining their life completely. Surgeons will quote disatisfaction rates of 2% for this op. What they call "dissatisafction" is actual the patient being distraught.....dsitraught by having their lives ruined. Independent studies show that 25% of patients regret having the operation. You are playing Russian roulette by having ETS. I would gladly trade places right now with any blusher on this site.

# 697

Posted: 16/07/2009 19:34

I'm a male in my early twenties and suffer from severe blushing and sweating. It torments me every single day. It has ruined every aspect of my life and would do anything to be rid of it. I can handle the sweating but its the blushing that really gets me down. I'm stuck in a job that i hate and have never had a proper relationship because of this curse. Don't get me wrong, I have a large circle of friends, a great sense of humour and really enjoy socialising but my face turning red at the drop of a hat is really holding me back in life. In the past few months I've realised that where possible I avoid any social occassion that doesn't involve alcohol. Drinking doesn't cure it but it makes me less aware of it and for a few hours I can be myself. I can say what I want, to whom I want regardless of who is listening or watching with out the worry of turning bright red tormenting me. For me. blushing makes day to day life intolerable. I would'nt wish it on anyone. I'm considering ets but am terrified it will make things worse. I would love to hear from anyone who has any experience of it.

# 696

Posted: 14/07/2009 18:28

I have just had a ETS operation on June 22 2009 here in Canada..I took no pain killers after the operation as I didn't require them..The only problem I had was the breathing tube they put down my throat, this actually bothered me more than my chest after surgery..

I am 65 years of age and my operation for the scape, sweating, facial sweating and blushing, plus armpits was very successful..Surgery was fairly simple procedure with minimal discomfort..I would recommend this operation to anybody suffering from Hyperhidrosis..

Yes I do have side effects, one of which is sweating, one area gets fixed and the problem is redistributed elsewhere..This is called "compensatory sweating".. New areas was created in the waist area and the lower back.. I don't care it is still better than having dripping wet hair, as though you have just come out of the shower, or pools of water dripping down your face, and neck, or blushing at social occassions as though you are the local drunk, (and you don't drink anything other the diet drinks)..I had no energy, always in a pool of water.. Life is too short to go around with something that can be fixed..

Another side effect I have is sensitive Pleurae, chest lining sensitivity above my right breast.. This is improving, each week, and I am hopeful in time it will go away.. Other-wise I will just have to get used to this ..

My life has been dramatically immeasurably improved, I feel like a new person.. My scape/face/neck/and armpits are dry and my facial blushing has disappeared, thank God..

# 695

Posted: 14/07/2009 09:52

What we all suffer from is called a Body dysmorphic disorder and social anxiety order. My doctor has put me on 150mg venlafaxine a day and I'm to see a Psychiatrist in August. The best advise is to talk to your doctor about how blushing is effecting your life and he will do all the bloods and a 24hr urine collection to rule out anything sinister. The fact is that we are born with this redness or our skin blushes easily and we have to accept it. We suffer from a form of mentally illness. That's Fact!. We are not crazy! But we need help to get over the feelings we have about ourselfs. Two months in with venlafaxine and i feel brilliant. All my family have notice how relaxed I am. For the first time in 20 years i feel normal. I dont' blush or flush like i used too. My relationship with my wife and children have gone to a new level. Life is great and I don't care about the redness nearly as much as I used to 2/3 months ago. I wasted so much time, energy and money trying to find a magic cure. Wish I had gone to the doc years ago.

# 694

Posted: 13/07/2009 11:19

I read an article about a guy in his forties who had a sympathectomy in Dublin in 1998 or so for blushing. He died intraoperatively. He was a barrister (lawyer) and very successful but felt that blushing was harmimg him professionally. Little did he know that it would take his life.

# 693

Posted: 18/05/2009 20:49

I have suffered from blushing for about 7 years. At the start it only affected my social life but then took over all aspects of my life. About a year ago i downloaded a hypnosis cd from the internet and listened every day for a month. For me this worked to a certain extent. I did not constantly think about blushing all day in work but it was still a big issue in my life. At the moment i am going to a nlp/hypnosis practioner and so far it is very good. We all know it is the fear of blushing thats the problem. NLP helps understand and change that fear. After this you can then build confidence and confidence is the key. It takes time and practise. For me speaking with strangers really helped improve my confidence. Start slow and just ask people for directions. Do this 20 times and see how you feel and build from there

# 692

Posted: 07/05/2009 10:03

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# 691

Posted: 01/05/2009 20:32

hi everybody..Just stumbled on this site today..I've been blushing as long as i can remember, it really has a big impact on day to day living..Everything triggers it off & if someone comments about it, talk about super-red & burning up..So bad you could fry an egg & possibly the rest of a fry.I hate it so much.In work, at home, bumping into friends/family & there doesn't seem to be an escape from it..I thought about Hypnotherapy? Anyone gone through it, fill me in please..I asked a doctor years ago & he said i'd grow out of if..fat chance der :( Look forward to any suggestions that you have had success with..Will try anything once..HELP!!!!!!!