Depression in late teen girls

purple  Posted: 03/06/2009 21:59

hi all

depression is not a nice thing to have, i suffer with this too, im 44, i dont no what u r going through as u r a teenager, but u should try talk to someone about this, friends, doctor, nurse, family.

jasmin  Posted: 02/06/2009 18:02

i'm 18 and i was told wen i was 13 dat i hav depression, but i didn want 2 admit 2 it so i carried on as normal. i couldn b happy anywhere, since i was 16 i moved about over 10 times (even to different conrties) and now dat im pregnant my depression has got really bad, i dont even talk to my friends anymore!

Anonymous  Posted: 11/05/2008 16:13

I am a girl of 17 and until a few months ago everything was great. but i had a huge fight with my best friend and nothing has been the same since. in school i spend most of my time now alone. i used to be a bright bubbly talking who was on the top of the world. i am quite smart but just have no incentives to do anything anymore. i find my self crying after the slightest thing and feel i have no one to talk to so i end up piling all my worries on my boyfriend. is there somewhere i can ring to just talk to someone. does it ever get easier?!?!

debbie (JBY69039)  Posted: 25/03/2008 17:47

Hi Iwould like to do an interview with anyone who suffers with depression to highlight it to people out there and to let people know they are not alone.i work in a community radio station and do a programme called lifeline, it covers all medical issues so if you are interested let me know. Thanks. Debbie

Anonymous  Posted: 04/02/2008 20:36

Im 19 yr old girl and have suffered with depression for years. I was diagnosed with ADHD when i was 13. I always used to think there was something wrong with me and the way i thought. I get so anxious when i meet a new friend because i think my behavior frightens people away. I analyze things way too much and always get into a dark place. I just wish i had someone to talk to who is going through the same thing .

Anonymous  Posted: 11/02/2003 12:26

hey guys, i finally start hearing about other cases similar to how I feel.I'm 24. Does any one else have this pit in their stomach, its a kind of emptiness or strange pain. ive tried explaining it to friends and GP.Well i eventually forced myself into going to the doctor after I had this really stronge urge to just crash my car into a ditch. Ive been feeling really low and down for many years but its just recently that Ive started dreaming of taking pills washed down with wine. Im actually terrified of going back to the nightclub because the last time I felt so out of place I just got really drunk and kept looking forward to getting home and taking all those pills.I was on the dancefloor picturing the packet in my head.This has now taken over my dreams. Im at a loss as to what to do now!

Anonymous  Posted: 13/06/2002 11:46

Can anyone who has given up Cipramil advise on the best method of withdrawl? My daughter has received conflicting advice (one method was leaving out one pill per week for two weeks, then two pills per week etc.; the other method was to leave out every second day and withdraw quickly in three weeks). It would be great to hear how anyone actually did it.

Anonymous  Posted: 21/02/2002 17:14

I am 22 and have suffered from depression since i was about 12 maybe before that, I can't actually ever remember being really happy. I have been on medication for the past 4 years and you would never know to look at me. There is nothing wrong in my life i have a great boyfriend, family, friends and a good job. Whay upsets me is the state of the rest of the world and how cruel people can be. You see it every day on the telly, in the street and in the papers. How can you not be depressed when you look around you?

Anonymous  Posted: 05/09/2001 21:41

i wud like to agree with the person who mentioned jesus as the answer to all problems.jesus christ is a life long friend and although he is not JUST there to give u help but its a two way thing.jesus can help u get thru ur depression and any other problems u have-all u have 2 do is open up and commit ur life to Him.i also urge u to read the bible and look out 4 any local born again christian group in ur continually praying 4 all u who suffer from depression.god bless u.

Joyce (rowntree77)  Posted: 17/05/2001 21:13

Hi,I'm 23yrs old, and suffered from severe depression between the age of 19 and 21yrs. I had been depressed all through my teenage years but experienced the first real big depression shortly after I started college. Consequently I couldn't cope with studying and left.As a younger teenager I never felt happy and from time to time would get worse but never told anyone as I thought it was just my personality. Then when I was 19 I could no longer hide the truth and totally gave up on life and took to my bed where I spent most of my time. I was forced to receive professional help (thankfully!!) and was put on anti-depressants ( see my post earlier on ) I also spent some time in hospital for my own safety as I was very suicidal. I'm not sure what kind of advice to give but I do know that I found it torture to have to mix with my family or leave my bed at all. I was severly depressed and looking back, lying in bed, in the dark, with my eyes closed was the the next best thing to non existence. I just wanted to drift into a state of nothingness. Thankfully my parents never gave up on me. I used to wish that they would leave me alone so that I could tell myself they didn't care and that I could end my life without upsetting anyone. I tried to push them away but they didn't give up. Also I attended an excellent psychiatrist who also never gave up on me and eventually found the right medication for me and I now am free from the grips of this deadly invisible disease. I have just finished my first year of college. I'm studying nursing which I could never have done had I not received treatment for my depression. There is always hope. Help is out there, all you've got to do is ask for it.

Anonymous  Posted: 15/05/2001 15:42

Insecurity..? a young person to date has recently left 1st yr college and now spends most of their time in bed...locked in the security of their home...or is it ??...uninterested in most things when they do arise. Is this adolescent depression of a kind or a psychological block with the big world as such being a bit too much for them after the formality, of school?? Genuinely interested in exeriences of any similarity from the individuals or parents and/or advice as to how to coax this person from their current situation.

Laura (lauramur)  Posted: 09/05/2001 14:20

I have just read through the posts in this forum, so apologies for responding to posts many months apart at the same time. I have suffered from depression, on and off for as long as I can remember, and certainly since my early teens. In my case (and I can only speak for me) I can say that no, depression does not always make me feel sad, or feel like the blues. At it's most easy to recognise, it is a wooly feeling in my head, I can't think, concentrate, or function properly. It can get to the point where I can't make a decision, I once ended up in floods of tears, at the point of a breakdown over whether or not to bring potatoes with us on a camping holiday. I don't mean to trivialise this, but that is how it affects your life. I found a counsellor/psychiatrist whom I became very comfortable with, and she helped a lot over the years. Just in terms of someone you could say absolutely anything to, and not be judged or criticised for it. I have been on various medications at various times, prothiaden made me feel too wooly to function, prozac were okay, cipramil left me with very little feeling in nerve endings, a bit like being numb all the time, fingers couldn't feel properly, and sex life (apologies to anyone offended) became non-existant. Went from there on to seroxat, but ended up with hair loss, sleepiness almost to the point of narcolespy, blood sugar yo-yo, and it seems to have kicked off some problems with my liver. I found stress was often a factor in my depression. the more stressed my life became, the more likely I was to succum to another bout. I used to describe it at one stage as "my head going on its holidays", which was how it felt, cause it would just clock out, and someone else would have to look after me until my head came back. I usually succumed to post natal depression, and stress of college exams etc would be enough to put me on cipramil, just to get me through the exam season. What I want to say to people is that YES, it does get better. I am now 33 years of age, and hopefully depression free. I have dealt with my historical monsters, childhood etc (which does not necessarily have to be bad, just unhappy for you), I have found a man I love, to whom I am married, and who understands me, bless him, in the good times and bad. I am now working in a job I love, (computers), and I don't try to be all things to all people. I look after myself, and my hubby and kids, but there is a "take a number and wait" system after that. I do what I have to, I do more when I WANT to (which is quite often at this stage), but I manage my life. If I feel a little down, or woolyheaded, I take johns wort, and it helps head things off at the pass. I learned to play, I learned to have fun. Depression was not about feeling down, but realy having fun can work wonders for it. And I mean silly fun, water fights, games of chasing, kiddy fun! It works a treat! I also had a family who didn't like the idea of problems being discussed outside the family, the "they'le think your mad" syndrome. You have to do what is right for you. You have to talk outside, if that is what YOU need. Not everyone does, but if you do, go for it. To those stuck in it, I say, keep slogging, keep trying, it can get better. It WILL get better. Use your medication to your best effect, if it is not helping try something else. You can live and be happy. Go for it !! :)

Anonymous  Posted: 02/05/2001 20:49

I am a 20 yr old girl, who thought I'd finally escaped the painful claws of depression last year.I was prescribed two months supply of Prozac by my GP,who was a wonderful lady.The Prozac did its job, but for the past few months i have been feeling bouts of despair and doubts about what i am even on this earth for!i always feel that i am a burden to others,that i never truly make anyone happy,unless i am in love.That is the only time i accept myself for who i am, the only time i like who i am,when i know somone loves me and depends on me to keep them happy.Then, when that person takes their love away,i become totally devastated,and i feel the black cloud of depression descend upon me, and dislike myself more than ever before!i am such a complicated person that i dont think any psychologist would ever be able to understand me,and i know that that would depress and frustrate me even more!any one else feel this way?

Anonymous  Posted: 02/05/2001 19:00

To the 20year old.I wrote the first msg.I really did not mean to put people off going to their Dr.I do think however that you have to find the right person for you.I think now that for mysef a counsellor may be of more benifit to me.Don't ask me why, its just the way I feel.Also if you go to ur G.P you will actually feel good if he tells you that you suffer from depression(which I think you do)because then at least you know that you are not making it all up in your own mind.About thinking that no-one can get into ur mind to understand you I get what you're saying.I had a really bad day on Saturday for no reason.I am going to my Dr tomorrow & I will tell her that I had a bad day.She will not be able to tell me why i had a bad day but it does actually help just to talk about it.I think what you're saying is that no-one will understand why or how black your thoughts are.No-one will understand why sometimes you have such little hope.A Dr. doesn't want to understand how black your thoughts are but rather WHY they are black and there is always a reason why they are.Go to your GP, tell him/her how you feel and ask them can they refer you to either a professional or a counsellor.I should not have wrote what I did but that was the way I was feeling.Since then though things have changed and I am looking forward to seeing my Dr tomorrow. By going to your GP the least you will get is them telling you that you do suffer from depression and the most you will get is your life back with some sense of quality to it. P.S. Not sleeping at nite is a sign of depression.I bet your mind is always racing and your thoughts never stop.You can't find peace?

Anonymous  Posted: 01/05/2001 16:50

I am a 20 year female and think I may be suffering from depression. I feel OK at the moment, but at different stages - for no particular reasons I seem to fall into a black pit of despair. I'd say this has been happening on and off for the last 5 or so year. I don't know why - I have a great family, boyfriend, friends etc, but for some reason none of this seems to make any difference. I have never been to a doctor about this and wonder if there is any real point from reading the first message and some others. I don't think another person could possibly get inside my mind enough to be able to help or understand my thoughts and feelings. Is there no end? I really don't want to have to take drugs that subdue my mind. I also have problems sleeping - do others who are depressed find it difficult to sleep at night? I hope I don't sound like a hypochondriac, which most people seem to think I am if I ever mention it...

Joyce (rowntree77)  Posted: 27/04/2001 14:56

I am 23 years and am one of those people who have a lot of good things to say about efexor. I was on many different anti-depressants namely prothiaden, anafranil,seroxat zispin and gammanil. I had partial responses to these drugs, that is to say the severity decreased relieving some symtoms like suicidal feelings and deep misery allowing me to function a little better. Because I remained chronically depressed I would have episodes of severe depression. In November 1998 I was started on efexor. At this point I was convinced that nothing would be able to help me and I was doomed to be depressed forever Thankfully I was proved wrong. It took some time though as I think my doctor was reluctant to place me on a high dose. However, I remained depressed until the medication was increased to 300mg. I have not experienced depression since and I would like to point out that I was severely depressed, totally disabled because of it and now I rarely have a bad day. In fact the only time I would be off form is just before my period and I can now accept that as normal. Just because this medication worked for me does not mean that it will work for everyone as we are all different and some people suffer with side-effects. The side-effects I experience include night sweats including increased daytime sweating, dry mouth, constipation, and tremor( occasionally). I also have to be very careful about the times I take efexor. For example if I took last night's dose at 11:00pm and this morning's dose at 7:00pm I would experience a jittery restless feeling and some agitation ( rarely ). This is due to the high concentration of the drug in the blood system.I have to take the dosage aprox 12 hrs apart. On the other hand if I'm late in taking my next dose I may experience some withdrawal symptoms (depending on how late I've left it). The symtoms I have experienced include nausea, headache and agitation. I also have to take the medication after I've eaten as it causes nausea and a burning sensation in my stomach. There are more severe side-effects which thankfully I've escaped. A lot of people may think that this medication causes too much problems but as far as I'm concerned the positive effects out-weigh the negative effects and I would rather experience some side effects than EVER go down the road of depression again. It nearly destroyed me.

Anonymous  Posted: 26/04/2001 18:05

A lot of contributors have been promoting the benefits of effexor. It sounds v. attractive so I looked up some sites on this drug. The side-effects are severe, i.e. every contributor had severe night sweats, very vivid dreams, lack of libido, other effects mentioned were hair loss, weight gain, lack of motivation and problems with eye-sight. And it would appear that if one neglects to take even one dose an immediate reaction occurs. Withdrawl from this drug is incredibly difficult. The sympthoms of withdrawl mentioned by a no.of patients were severe nausea,headaches,hallucinations and a sudden severe on-set off depression again. Because of this many patients are unable to come off the drug.This would seem to be a highly potent and addictive drug and I would advise people to find other alternatives before commencing this treatment. It should be used as a last resort.

Anonymous  Posted: 25/04/2001 16:23

I keep hearing about exeffor. As someone who has tried both seroxat and prozac without any improvement this drug sounds like a godsend. I am visting my GP tomorrow,I know it depends on the individual, but what is the usual dosage? I feel my GP usually underprescribes. He is against drugs if poss. and recommends counselling.Great if you can afford it. Went to someone once she was more wooden than the chair she sat on. She never smiled and decided, without cause, that all my problems related to my mother (i.e. she cosseted me).I have to say the whole experience was very off-putting and the so-called counsellor was as far as I'm concerned a charlatan.

Anonymous  Posted: 25/04/2001 11:22

I am a 19 year old female student, and this topic interests me greatly because I had a form of depression last year and am also a psychology student. Because I couldn't pinpoint the cause of all these feelings of desperation I was experiencing, I made an appointment with the well-woman clinic and was immediately prescribed Effexor. Within days Iwas back to normal, with no feelings of euphoria or otherwise abnormal symptoms. I now feel that whatever the problem was it was chemically rooted. I wonder if there are many people who never go the whole hog and take medication because of the stigma surrounding anti-depressents. I think that many people who feel low for no reason may be experiencing a simple to treat chemical imbalance. I repeat SOME, I don't intend to trivialize depression at all.

Anonymous  Posted: 17/04/2001 19:33

hey to the last girl who wrote in. I wrote the 1st message & yes I do understand what you are saying. Although Dr's may seems like a waste of time I have come up with my own theory on how to use them to my benifit.I go in, sit or slouch nto the chair& then start talking about anything.Talk ablut those dark secrets that are at the very back of your mind.The secrets that u haven't even thought about yourself.I have told my Dr. things which I had never even thought of before myself-things which I didn't know were in my head.You are spending huge amounts of money on the Dr. so u may as well try & get something back.Even if u don't think ur Dr is helping u, just talking about it may do u good.Don't listen to people who tell u they have thier own problems.sometimes we need extra help with whats going on in our lives & if those people are not willing to give u that support then u should not bother with them.Talk to a friend who will give u the support u need.Believe in yourself. Believe that u will get through it.Don't EVER be ashamed that u need help with your problems or that u suffer from this depression.U did nothing to deserve it.

Anonymous  Posted: 11/04/2001 22:23

HI, I am a 20-year-old girl who suffers from depression. I know I have been suffering for the past 10 or so years. You may find it hard to believe it but I know its true. For the people in the world who don't know what it is like it to have I'd say they feel very confused about it all, but for me it is worse - the feeling of frustration is overwhelming, it is like no-body is really listening or wants to know. I have been to see a lot of different psychologists, counsellors and all that kind of thing but I have always felt that not one of them truly understands how I feel, and yes like the girl who posted the first message, I feel that talking to these Doctors haven't done any good for me, and that they bring to the surface the things that you try to forget about and live without - if they bother at all. A lot of the time, when I got really depressed as a young kid I used to tell my mum and she would never ask me about how I feel or what made me feel this way - I always felt she didn't care at all. It is still the same, especially when I tell her about what's getting me down and my low self esteem she begins to harp on about how I am not the only one with makes me feel really guilty for telling her at all. This is one of the reasons that I just don't talk to people about it - it makes me sound like I really am a bad person and it really affects me. If there is anyone who feels this way, I would like to know. I just feel so isolated from my family and society because of this - its like a vicious circle that I cant get out really hurts.….. If there is anyone who feels this way, I would like to know. I just feel so isolated from my family and society because of this - its like a vicious circle that I cant get out really hurts...

Anonymous  Posted: 11/04/2001 16:47

Never give up hope on finding a treatment suitable for you. I had been suffering from severe depression for years and had been on various medications including prothieden,anafranil, seroxat, zispin, gammanil and nothing ever completely worked until I started taking efexor 300mg. I am now totally fine and haven't had one depressed day in 2 years.

Anonymous  Posted: 11/04/2001 12:55

Hi Guys, I'm 29 year old guy and I suffer from clinical depression and am currently taking Lustral to treat it. I think there is a lot of confusion between clinical depression, and depression brought on by adverse life events (e.g. loss of loved ones, guilt, change in financial circumstances etc.). While is is possible to alleviate this type of depression by changing our circumstances, making new friends, leaving a bad relationship etc., this is not the case with clinical depression. If you suffer for clinical depression, hearing that you ought to be taking steps to increase you self esteem only makes you feel more guilty, and more depressed. Quite literally, with clinical depression, you don't have enough chemical messengers in your brain to carry around your thoughts. There are a few theories on which particular chemicals are the most important (currently its Serotonin, thats why many SSRI's type drugs or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors are used). Speaking from my own experience I knew that I was suffering from depression not just because I felt 'sad', but also I was easily confused, had difficulty making choices, had no interest in other people, felt dumb (fog on my brain) and unable to make interesting conversation etc. (BTW I'm an ex college student and usually sparky). All of this of course lead to low self esteem. Simply changing my circumstances would not have helped me. However, I do realise that maintaining good life circumstances is important for me to remain well, when this treatment is finished. Additionally, for those that know....... i.e all frequent Mongers that 'chew gum they ain't got', livin it large, conversing about a certain type of Japanese car.... say no more... this is the most obvious reason why I fell into this depression! So its the wagon for me because I've had enough of the horrers and terrible Tuesdays, thank you very much, its just EtOH from now on... Wise up, took me too long to and this is where I'm at!

Anonymous  Posted: 11/04/2001 09:01

I tried Seroxat and while it worked, I don't think I noticed any difference in self-confidence. I am fine again but now re-living it with a close friend who sees his depression as a sign of weakness or faliure. He has acknowleged that he is depressed but has not yet got the courage (and it does take courage) to go to see someone. I have tried every method I can think of to help. Aware are great- I didn't talk to them while I was depressed but I rang them this week for advice on what to do about my friend.

Anonymous  Posted: 10/04/2001 17:56

Anyone looking for a treatment, try Efexor. It's miraculous - tried Prozac and Seroxat previously but with no positive effects. In response to some of the previous messages - endogenous depression does not come about due to repression of negative childhood memories. I suggest you do some research on serotonin if this is what you believe. However, I do feel that self-esteem has an important part to play with regard to teenage girls such as myself. S.

Anonymous  Posted: 10/04/2001 16:38

I have never suffered from depression - certainly not in the real sense. But I did feel an affinity with all the messages that were posted as I am a Samaritan Volunteer and listen to people with depression on a regular basis. I do think that it helps a lot of people to talk about it, mainly because their family and/or friends cannot or will not listen to them any more. At the Samaritans, we do not offer advice, but do offer a friendly ear.

Anonymous  Posted: 03/04/2001 01:53

i've thought about ending it all, but I didn't. Glad I didn't have a gun or anything else to hand when I felt that way. don't feel as bad nowadays (was on medications for a while, came off late last yr). If you feel this way, hang in there, get help if you can, it may pass, don't do anything you can't undo. All the best. PJ

Anonymous  Posted: 27/03/2001 18:51

I am the person who said that I had been told I was a manic depressive but did not feel suicidal. My GP checked me for throid dysfunction and when I was told it wasn't that, she just told me I was a manic depressive. I took that other person's advice and sought a second opinion and have now been diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrom. Can someone please tell me why a doctor would tell me, a 22 year old female, that I was a manic depressive just by me telling her that I was tired. I think that's mad and it certainly made me depressed.

Anonymous  Posted: 27/03/2001 18:34

I would like to say that I had depression a good few years ago. I always belive that there is something or someone responsible for it something that is in your past or present that caused you to repress your feelings and keep them hiden until you are low and then it atacks a few years later when you are feeling life is good - so just look deep inside yourself before you start to think you are going mad and go deep inside your head and try and get to the bottom of what you are hiding and don't be afraid of what you find.

Anonymous  Posted: 23/03/2001 09:08

I know I am a bit late in contributing with this. I was diagnosed last year with depression. I was put on Prozac, which actually I had a bad reaction to and it made me worse, so I changed to another form of medication. What I found was that it gave me a giddyness that annoyed people. My problems are deep and while the medication helped, it didn't make them go away. I find myself going back into that black hole now and it scares me. But each day I have to tell myself 'You are going to be happy today' - it might not happen, but I reckon if I keep telling myself that I am going to be happy, that everything will be okay. Then at least I am putting myself on the road to recovery. Believing in yourself is a huge part of getting well. Talking about it on a regular basis helps as well. There are so many people out there that are depressed and don't even know it, and that is scary. More awareness really needs to be put on this at a school level to make people aware to the fact that it is not all in their heads, that they are not just moody, and that there is help out there.

Anonymous  Posted: 22/03/2001 22:06

kilkenny woman again........i have tried a lot of things to get my head around this illness and it is an illness,,,, but what helps me alot is to only focus on the day ahead. i use to think about tomorrow and what i would do and then make lists for the weekend and then i was on to next month and before i knew it i was thinking of next year and then i would stop and say to myself is this it ,i would be looking at a piece of paper with dates and no meaning to a lived life.i am sorry if i am not explaining myself properly, but i would just feel as if this is the rest of my life i dont want it,so i recognised that to much going ahead and nothing to fill the time with was screwing my head up ,so i live for now and plan for now or the next moment and my head is concentrating on the next thing to do ,i dont lose sight of what really matters.a favourite saying of mine is happiness is not a destination it is found along the way in simple pleasures and in acts of kindness and love.

Anonymous  Posted: 22/03/2001 20:26

In response to 2 messages. First the person who states that they have been diagnosed as suffering from depression but don't feel depressed they just have some vague phyiscal symptoms. You should go back to your Doctor and ask them to run some tests. I am no medical expert, but as a sufferer of depression, I have read a lot of articles on the causes and one of them is an under active thyroid gland. The physical symptoms you have mentioned can be attributed to this condition...which is easily controlled with the correct medication. To awake. Yes you are suffering from depression. As with most people who have this condition there isn't any particular incident which causes it. For further info. look up Mental Health on this website. Rest assured you are not going mad and you are not alone. Best of luck!

awake  Posted: 22/03/2001 19:07

Does anyone know if something has to have happened to someone for them to suffer from depression or can someone "just suffer" from it? although i suffer from depression there is no one two or three things which i can say -"yeah this gets me down or that gets me down". I am just down. IT is as if I am in a hole I can't get out of yet there is no reason for me to be in it. I am young, healthy etc etc and although there is one thing which bothers me a lot I do not believe it to be the sole reason for my depression as it has only occurred in recent years and I feel as if I have lived all my life with the disease. Do I actually suffer from depression or is it all in this bloody mind of mine???????????????????????????????

Anonymous  Posted: 22/03/2001 17:39

The person who just wrote that "the darkest hour is just before the dawn" - I was only reading that in a book last night ... and I started to cry, because I really hope that it is true. The way I look at it, it can only get better.

Anonymous  Posted: 22/03/2001 17:15

Kilkenny woman. I have only been e-mailed this topic. I was diagnosed with depression only 6 years ago,I am 33 now.I went for years thinking I was living in a bubble for want of a better term.Everyone told me to buck up,what could I be possibly down about. Then when I had kids they said it was the baby blues, all these excuses and me getting more into my self everyday.I don't know how my marriage survived but it did.I was diagnosed only after being rushed into my local hospital with another panic attack.I can remember feeling odd from about the age of 12. I know odd is not a fancy medical term but I knew something was wrong although physically I was OK.I have had help from tablets and counsellors but find the service inadequate and have to drag myself back on bad days.

Anonymous  Posted: 22/03/2001 12:17

Hi Jim, I am in my late 20s and have suffered from mild depression on and off for the last 8 years. I find that taking prozac helps but I'd prefer not to be on any medication. I agree with what you say that the depression is linked to lacking self worth, and I've tried several things to work on this, but my depression still comes back when I'm off medication. Do you know of cases where if goes completely?

Anonymous  Posted: 22/03/2001 12:17

Remember the saying: "The darkest hour is just before the dawn". There is help out there. Don't give in to despair. Don't let the dark thoughts win out. Good luck with your struggle.

Anonymous  Posted: 22/03/2001 12:13

you don't have to feel suicidal to be depressed. I didn't even realise that I was feeling low until someone asked me to remember the last time I felt really happy and content with my life, and I couldn't remember it. But if you are not happy with the diagnosis, then just get a second opinion.

Anonymous  Posted: 22/03/2001 09:19

I was recently told that I suffer from depression. I don't feel suicidal or anything, I don't even feel down at all. I am constantly tired, cold and have headaches, memory loss and loss of concentration. I don't really feel depressed. In fact I don't really think I have depression at all but I may be wrong. Can anyone help?

Tom (Thomasj)  Posted: 21/03/2001 10:34

I tried seroxat.Thought they were good at the offset but am now on Efexor which I find excellent.

Anonymous  Posted: 21/03/2001 10:30

Hmmm ... bottle of wine ... severe deja vu happening here Clodagh. Except mine accompanied a scissors and my wrist. And the whole "get over it" syndrome sounds very familiar as well. The only person that can beat this is you - and if you need to talk to a counsellor, then do it. If you need anti-depressants, then take then. My doctor only last night told me that whenever you feel like you don't have anyone, then you do always have one person - yourself. You can beat this. And until you feel ready to stand on your own, then take all the help that is there on offer to you.

Clodagh (cbunbury)  Posted: 21/03/2001 00:25

I am not in my teens and would not wish to be. But I have been recently diagnosed with depression (which I now know I suffered from in my teens as well). The only person I found that actually took me seriously was my GP who is absolutely fantastic. He did prescribe medication (Cipramil) and counselling. My family and friends, however, kept telling me I'd get over it and not to go to counselling because people would think I was mad. I stopped going to my counsellor and I didn't "get over it"!!!! Last Wednesday night I ended up in hospital after taking a bunch of pills, washed down with a bottle of wine. I do feel that self-esteem has a lot to do with it, but that is a very hard problem to overcome. When we are feeling bad about ourselves we tend to listen to everybody else and think they must be right. This makes us feel we are wrong and we end up in a worse state. We need to speak to people who understand what it is like to be depressed and who are there for us without telling us what to do or making us feel we are wrong to feel the way we do.

Anonymous  Posted: 20/03/2001 18:25

A lot of contributors have mentioned self esteem as a major factor in causing/pro-longing depression, which I totally agree with. Has anyone tried Seroxat? I recently read it not only alleviates the sympthoms of depression but also boosts self-confidence. It has been prescribed for in the US for people suffering from social phobia. Apparently it's more beneficial than prozac in treating such conditions

Anonymous  Posted: 20/03/2001 17:36

Of course depression isn't a life sentence for everyone who suffers from it at some stage during their life. Some people find that something as simple as a change of place or job, or a boost like finding a loving partner or career fulfilment, can lift them out of depression for good. But there does seem to be forms of clinical depression which can only be alleviated not sent packing for ever. Johnny McEvoy the singer has had success, financial stability and a happy family life, and yet he still finds that he becomes plagued by dark moods for up to a fortnight at a time regularly. There aren't any answers to depression that fit everybody, but Aware is a very good organisation who understand the many forms of the illness and can advise people.

Anonymous  Posted: 12/03/2001 16:20

John 10:10 (the Bible) says the devil comes only to steal, kill and destroy, I (Jesus talking) have come that you may have life and have it in abundance. Depression is part of stealing (peace of mind), killing (leads people to take their own lives) and destroying - self explanatory. To really stop beating around the bush we have to see where these things come from and where the answer to them is. I challenge you to take up a Bible and read the gospel of John. Jesus is the only one who can deliver you once and for all from this affliction. You are very precious to Him.

Anonymous  Posted: 09/03/2001 17:59

No Jim you are right. Just because people tell me that I am not alone is not really helping me cure (if that is possible) my depression but it helps a lot. When one is in what seems like a bottomless black pit it is nice to know that you are not alone and others have been there before you and surivied.I also take your point though that just because I know I am not alone that suddenly makes everything better. Thanks to everyone for replying. I guess it is true what they say: we are all friends who haven't met.

Anonymous  Posted: 09/03/2001 12:37

Alright, let's be practical. Is the medication that your doctor is giving you working? Does it make you feel better or worse? If it doesn't make you feel better go back and tell him so. You don't feel like your psychologist addresses the issues that make your brain feel like a bomb? Tell them. They might have another approach that would be more successful. I still say that it's in your own hands and you can take control of your depression. I'm not trying to lecture anyone, but I don't think "you are not alone" really adequately addresses the problem we have in this country with teenage depression.

Anonymous  Posted: 08/03/2001 18:59

What complete and utter hogwash some of these people are talking. When you are depressed, the last thing you need is a sanctimonious lecture. Has 'Jim' escaped from some academic institution? Let's get down to earth and practical here.

Anonymous  Posted: 08/03/2001 18:58

Depression is a truly awful condition to have to live with and I don't think people who have never suffered from it can really understand. It's not just 'the blues'. There is no easy solution and no matter how much you are told of your value as a human being, it makes no difference. The main thing is to grab hold of whatever support systems are available to help you. Drugs, counselling, support groups like Aware, books, websites - try them all, you've nothing to lose. I've read recently that when it comes to counselling, cognitive therapy can actually work very well in depression.

Anonymous  Posted: 08/03/2001 17:00

The previous contributor misunderstands me. I have researched the issue of depression quite thoroughly (Issues of depression might be more accurate, since there are quite a few varying forms of clinical depression, some mild, some not, some bipolar, some not, some related to other mental illness, some not.) My point was that depression, clinically diagnosed or not, is particularly common in the late teen-early 20s age group, as our national suicide statistics or any GP will tell you. And yes, I stand by my point that a crucial element in overcoming depression is addressing issues of self worth. It is very commonly a depression sufferer's self-perception that is the first cognitive ability to be distorted. From there, other problems arise. The dark negative thoughts I referred to were not the 'blues', which I always assumed were a form of music, but the Negative Automatic Thoughts which are a symptom of clinical depression. Research indicates that overcoming depression involves short-circuiting the automatic nature of these thoughts, and a proven way of doing that is by 're-programming' the brain with positive affirmations.

Anonymous  Posted: 08/03/2001 11:46

The last contributor talks about dark, negative thoughts and improving one's self-worth. Hello!!! That's about as helpful in cases of Clinical Depression as advising someone with Chronic Heart Failure that what they really need is to buck up! Clinical depression is a serious medical condition, but it is often mistaken by lay people with 'the blues', which, yes, positive attitude and a little cognitive therapy can indeed be helpful.

Anonymous  Posted: 08/03/2001 10:32

Depression is extremely common in your age group, and you should not feel ashamed about your condition. There are many things that you can do to alleviate your condition. Of course, your GP can prescribe medication, such as Prozac, and some people believe that the herb St John's Wort can be very effective in improving mood. However, the best thing you could do is try to boost your sense of self-esteem. If you can learn to value yourself as a clearly intelligent and perceptive human being, you will be able to conquer dark negative thoughts with the reality of your own worth.

Anonymous  Posted: 05/03/2001 21:57

You are not alone. 1 in 10 people suffer from depression all ages, female/male, black/white, rich or poor. I suffer from depression and wish it would stop. But in time and you have to give it time, it will get better and your mind will stop being like a bomb. Even at your lowest times you have the power and belief to get over this and a sign of this, is that you are here. Above all remember that - "You can overcome this depression".

Anonymous  Posted: 27/02/2001 19:00

I am 18 & was recently told I suffered from depression.Initially I was happy because at least I knew there was really somthing wrong with me & I wasn't just imagining it or being weird.Since then though things haven't changed much.I attend a psychologist regularly & am on medication.I don't feel the Dr. visits are doing me any good as all we ever do is talk about everyday paltry things. I feel as if there is something ticking in my head & I can't get it to bloody stop.Please say I'm not alone.

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