no sex life?
causes loss of desire?
Too tired to care
No surprises here! Sleepless nights, demanding
days, dirty nappies, sore nipples from breast-feeding not to mention new-parent
anxiety inevitably take their toll on your energy levels.
Hormones, hormones, hormones
The drop of oestrogen and progesterone after childbirth
can cause postpartum depression, which can interfere with your sexual drive.
Postpartum depression can last for a few days or a few weeks following birth
and some women are more sensitive to hormonal changes than others.
The pain from childbirth doesn't end as soon as
the baby is born you will feel discomfort as your body repairs the damage
that occurred during the birthing process. The incision from a caesarean birth,
haemorrhoids, engorged and leaking breasts, and tender vagina are just a few
of the pains that may be intensified during intercourse.
Shssh, the baby can hear
You know the baby is oblivious to what youre
doing, but theres still a nagging doubt. Spontaneity may take a back seat
while you revert to an-under-the-sheets-and-behind-closed-doors-only sex life.
to bring it back
Take your time
Give your body a chance to recover from the birth
and your hormones time to settle. You will know when your body is sufficiently
recovered to resume having sex.
Use vaginal lubrication
The vaginal area will feel dry due to the altered
hormone levels. Try using lubricating vaginal creams until the hormone levels
Simple exercises can help to tone pelvic muscles,
which can intensify vaginal sensations. Pelvic floor exercises are encouraged
by midwives, physiotherapists and your doctor. Try tensing the muscles around
your vagina and anus, holding for several seconds, then releasing.
Your love life doesn't have to be a desert until
youre ready and able to have full sexual intercourse again rediscover
all those old feelings by cuddling, caressing, and holding hands in the meantime.
If you are ready to resume, be adventurous some sexual positions will
feel more comfortable than others, so experiment.
Plan some time alone with your partner, book a
babysitter in advance and take a couple of hours out for just the two of you.
You may be parents, but youre still a couple dont forget
Get checked out
If problems persist, you should discuss the problem
with your doctor or midwife. They can help you to discover the cause of continuing
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