|How should a carer approach sensitive issues such as driving or going out alone when it becomes clear that their relative is having serious problems coping with ordinary life? We feel that our father has reached this stage but we are finding it difficult to tackle the issue particularly as it seems so final.|
This can be very difficult, particularly as the individual often doesn't realise that there is a problem and can react angrily or become frustrated as they see their autonomy eroded. The best approach is to try to deal with it as a family and enlist the support of children and even siblings in getting the individual to stop or gradually cut down and then stop their driving. The GP can also be a resource as they can refuse to approve the renewal of driving licence on medical grounds. Sometimes, the opinion of a specialist can be helpful to get someone to stop driving. Either way, it is not easy.