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Sex abstinence poll results
[Posted: Mon 19/07/2004 www.irishhealth.com]
By Deborah Condon
One in three people believe that the promotion of abstinence from sex is an effective way to cut the number of teen pregnancies in Ireland, according to the results of a new poll by irishhealth.com.
The Irish Family Planning Association (IFPA) recently questioned the long-term effectiveness of sex education programmes which only promote abstinence. The association was responding to the arrival here of the Silver Ring Thing, an American abstinence programme, which encourages teenagers to abstain from sex until they are married.
According to the IFPA, studies have shown that young people who make a pledge of abstinence, quickly return to engaging in sexual intercourse and with much lower rates of contraceptive use.
We asked our 65,000 plus registered users, is the promotion of abstinence from sex an effective way to reduce teenage pregnancies.
Of those who answered, 64% said no this is not an effective way of reducing teen pregnancies. However one in three people - 33% - felt it was. A further 3% were unsure about the issue.
See the full poll results and debate on the issue at...
|Anonymous Posted: 21/07/2004 08:20|
|I think that asking young people (I presume we're talking about teenagers?) to wait until they're older to have sex, and wait until they're married are two separate things. Waiting until they're older seems to me a more practical realistic approach that many teens would accept, whereas waiting until they're married has got moral and religious overtones to it and I think it seems too old fashioned for teens to buy into. Obviously it'd be great if we all waited until we're married but I don't know how seriously this approach is taken by young people in today's world.|
|Anonymous Posted: 21/07/2004 11:16|
|I think it's ridiculous to expect teens to re,main celibate until marriage. Afterall gonme are htedays when we all married in our early 20's. Nowadays couple decide to live togehter as a lifestyle choice, many becuase it is financially impossible to buya house and pay for a wedding within the same year or even two years. So asking people of 15 to remain celebate for maybe20 years until they marry, perhaps in their 30's is unrealistic|
|Kate(SUP38509) Posted: 01/12/2005 05:23|
|Absolutely not! It is not ridiculous to remain celibate until marriage. Marrying someone is a lifelong commitment and if one cannot wait to have sex then one should get married sooner. Resist the urges. One should choose one partner for life. YOU OWE IT TO THE PERSON YOU SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH TO ONLY SHARE YOUR BODY WITH THAT ONE PERSON. By the way, I'm a teenager and I'm waiting.|
|Maggie Posted: 05/12/2005 11:23|
|Kate - you're a teenager, that says it all. Come back to us at say 25 or 30 after at least two serious relationships and tell us that you are still celibate.|
|fifi Posted: 09/12/2005 12:17|
|Ah kate, so sweet & innocent. Well done if you can save yourself for you life long partner (do they exist?) but realistly once those old hormones start kicking in its like trying to hold back a bull. Personally, I didnt have sex when I was a teenager but I did every sort of heavy petting you can imagine. Either way I was going to get some action. Its nature.|
|Maggie Posted: 09/12/2005 13:58|
|Kate you say if one cannot wait to have sex then one should get married sooner. How naieve - do you know how much a house costs, Do you know how much it costs to get maried? Besides, do you really think it's reasonable to go inot marriage with NO experece. With your eyes shut. Sexual difficulties and differences cause a huge amount of marital problems. I mean, would you buy a car without test driving it or looking under the bonnet? I don't mean to be cude but I can think of no better analogy.|
|Trish Posted: 24/02/2008 01:21|
|I am a bit outraged!!! I think Kate is completely correct in her thinking. It doesn't matter if you are a teenager or an adult, I believe sex IS for marriage and marriage alone. It is the physical commitment and promise of what comes out of your mouth at the alter on your wedding day. I am 26 years old and my fiancee is 24. We will not be married until we are both a year older. We are holding all petting and sex until married and I have done so previously as well. I am walking into my marriage pure and that is bologna about test driving the car before buying it. If your relationship is based truly on love, the physical will not get in the way....promise you that.|
|Anonymous Posted: 25/02/2008 12:22|
|Trish, you are entitled to your opinion and I hope it keeps fine for you but your view is very outdated. For me, sex is somehtign to be enjoyed between two adults who love one another (in my case monogamously) but marriage? It is simply a made-made social invention, whether at an altar or registry office. As for holding out on all petting and sex until married - aside from the frustration this causes, it can and has in the past, lead to people goign into a permanent commitment with absolutely zero experience, no knowledge other thna the theoretical but also, vitally no way of know if they and their partner are sexually compatible. Also not physically exploring, unless both parties are extremely mature and experienced, can and does lead to not mentally exploring - i.e. not talking about sex, expectation, exploration and what pleases both partners. There is nothing as prudish as the non-comuniative - regardless of how "pure" and based truely on love" any air-fairy ideas bout marriage are. That is garaunteed. You only have to look at all those of previous generations, like yourself, who thought they were entering marrriage pure and based on love only to end up unhappy, uncommunicative and untimately frustrated. Also, consider that many cannot afford to marry as young as you. You are not seriously suggesting to a grown adult that they remian celibate in a 6, 8 or 10 year relationship, some of which is bound to be living with the partner, until they are in their mid-thirtis. Surely no one is naieve enough to suggest that in this day and age. Also, where does your philospophy leave gay couples as they cannot legally marry in this country at the moment. Are you going to ferry tham all to the UK so they can fit in with your personal beliefs?|
|Billybob Posted: 25/02/2008 14:54|
|I wonder if Kate is still waiting (over 2 years later) or if she has succumbed yet. Sex is a gift and is perfectly natural between 2 consenting adults. Marriage and orientation is irrelevant.|
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